Wasting away our sexual prime.

[Muzna]

Re: Wasting away our sexual prime.

@cat-woman

I myself believe in the differentiation of gender roles and feel a societal pressure to go out there and prove myself to be the equivalent of a man. Anyway, times are different and girls do have to be able to stand on their own two feet - but why put off marriage - can’t it all be done simultaneously?

You can thank feminazis for the societal pressure. It is so far engrained that I’ve even seen school teachers who, while in the process of career counselling, will exhibit disappointment if a girl decides that she wants to go to community college or take home economics. (Heck, I think I’ve seen some courses that are now termed to be in the category of “Domestic Sciences” to accommodate weak egos.)

And of course it can be done simultaneously. It has been done. I know of a couple that got married young, both applied and went to med school and had twins at the same time. Beat that. They had no family support here in Toronto as both were the only ones from their families that had settled abroad. This is a specific example but I’m sure there are many, many others that have gone the same route.

I see Memon and Gujerati families here in SA who get their sons and daughters married very early, I’ve even heard of cases where the girl is in her last year of school. And they get to have children and enjoy them while they’re still young. Maybe its also because these families are extremely wealthy and dont need for their wives and daughters to go out and earn a living. Their sons also just get handed down the family business.

There is some truth to the financial aspect. There’s got to be. I’m curious…do the male members of the Memon and Gujerati communities give up their educations too or do they carry on and complete their degrees?

Unfortunately, many women that are pursuing degrees these days are doing so not because they are keen to work, but for two reasons:

1. To be able to qualify for a good match (i.e. this applies mostly in places like Pakistan where girls in med school are considered better catches whether or not they decide to practice.)

2. In the event something goes horribly awry (i.e. divorce, death or illness of the spouse) in their lives, they should be able to support the family.

Reason number one again, equates with status and is therefore materialistic. Reason number two is still a realistic approach and one that obviously shows some common sense and planning, however, this type of education can continue after the gal has tied the knot and is in her own home.