Re: was with a guy...
Stay away!
Re: was with a guy...
Sounds like a no brainer. Like Noodle said he wants you to be his mistress.
Re: was with a guy...
Agree with the other posters. The guy is bad news. Stay away from him and move on!
Re: was with a guy…
I dont understand 
- he “loves” you yet he can`t marry you,
- wants to stay in a relationship with you
- and on top of all that his family is looking at rishtas !!!
You still dont see RED FLAGS ? Sis all i am gonna say is run as far away from him as possible, my 2 cents 
Re: was with a guy...
Seriously, have some respect for yourself & run away from him! You aren't going to get anything by being with him other than a complicated & disastrous life!
Re: was with a guy…
now i have seen it all..
Re: was with a guy...
... for on and off 3 years, we had always planned to eventually get married, problem was we both lived in different countries.
we broke up for 9 months.. well actually he chose to ignore me.. anyway so about 3 - 4 weeks ago we got back in touch... spoke it all out..decided to work on the relationship and the issues surrounding it.
then out of no where he asks me a question... would i stay with him even if we don't get married.. initially i didn't take what he said seriously and kind of laughed it off.
then we didn't speak for about week..so i contacted him obviously wanting to know what was going on... so then again he clearly said he cant marry me but loves me and wants to spend his life with me.
i got extremely offended by what he was suggesting and put an end to the relationship.
i thought i was doing the right thing but now i feel regretful for not asking him the reasons behind what he was saying... he mentioned his family were looking at rishtas for him
background on the guy.. he's moderately religious.. family orientated.. intellectual.. understanding.. and so on and so forth..basically all the qualities that were sync with me had.
did i do the right thing by ending it.. should i try speak to him again?
Guys generally don't do hints and stuff, so if that's what he said, it means exactly the same. So if you are hoping/wishing that you took it the wrong way or he didn't really mean it or it was a trick question, it wasn't. Its going to sound 'easier said than done', but stay away from him. Get a hobby for distraction so that you don't get impulsive and call. Getting back together is definitely a no-no. You will find someone much better and will live happily ever after =)
Re: was with a guy...
You really can't fix stupid can you.
Re: was with a guy…
^ sadly, no. :no:
Re: was with a guy...
maybe his parents are forcing him and thier is pressure and he is confused .. talk to him again ask him if that was what he really meant .. i dont think a religious and shreef guy would really mean to say that thats what he wants from you .. i think hes confused and probably scared of his parents .. our boys get a lot of presure from their family to go along with what they say ..
Re: was with a guy…
Kya? 
Re: was with a guy...
I have seen people like him, who don't let things go b/c they want EVERYTHING. He wants to go ahead and get married but wants to keep you under his control too. It's really pathetic. Please try to get yourself out of this mess and inshAllah you will find someone who will truly respect you.
Re: was with a guy...
maybe his parents are forcing him and thier is pressure and he is confused .. talk to him again ask him if that was what he really meant .. i dont think a religious and shreef guy would really mean to say that thats what he wants from you .. i think hes confused and probably scared of his parents .. our boys get a lot of presure from their family to go along with what they say ..
Men should not make women part of their confusion. When you are confused about something, let it go until you are adult enough to make up your mind. Same goes for women too. This annoys me the most about people! if you don't know what you want, then why the heck wont you just stay away from any kind of relationship until you are sure. If you are sure, then stand up for it.
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^ very nice!
As the saying goes - raise your hands if you are sure