how can u manage when next person is very haarsh ? 
really want some usefull kind tips…
plz
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Depends on the other person(what they mean to you), depends on situation. I wont take verbal blows from a spoiled kid, who happens to do it out of habit. But i wont mind my parents going harsh with me, i know that would be genuine.
But you want to manage? Stay calm but draw a line between right and wrong. Dont accept everything that comes you way out of their harshness, be loud and speak up against it.
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First of all, who is this person?
If it's an immediate family member, then obviously you can't leave the person.
If it's an extended relative (cousin, aunt, etc)....then you can make the effort to maintain a distance.
It it's a coworker....maintain a distance.
If it's a friend...you can either maintain a distance or drop them altogether.
You have to create boundaries in relationships. The next time that person is harsh to you, tell them** "I feel that your comments are harsh and this is not the first time that I have been addressed this way in our relationshp. I don't appreciate it. I understand that we all can be frustrated at times, but there's always a more constructive way to discuss issues. Putting others down will not accomplish anything and it destroys relationships. Respect is earned. So, the next time that I am spoken to in a harsh way, I'm just going to walk away because I've dealt with it for way too long. I'd be more open to a positive discussion when you can manage it."**
^That way you're setting a boundary. And the next time that person speaks to you in a harsh way....remind them of your expectation....and walk away. If they care about you, they'll learn that they need to find a more mature way of expressing themselves if they wish to talk to you. Especially if it's an immediate family member (parents or siblings or spouse), you need to talk to the person about the issue.
Re: wants some tips & trick???
depends on the relationship with the person...
if its spouse, techniques will be different from lets say office fella
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distant yourself.
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Leave them or tell them to stop?
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You can't even tell a kid to stop if it's not your kid otherwise it's called abuse here, or kitni-kitna batameez there.....
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just try to be nice to them and ask them wat is up with this rude behavior .. if it doesn't improve then that person is probably not worht it
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Few people are just flared up all the time . As long as they remain in their senses its cool but on should always draw a line . Once s/he cross that , smack them .
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slappp them. duh.
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thankx all of u....to advice me....but i can't slapp him.....i can't leave him...i use to quite everytime...when he starts abuse me....BUT i think that is not usefull trick...to overcome his haarshness.....
i want to overcome his haarshness.... plz help me to give me usefull effective tips....
looking forward for ur advice.....
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^ I think you are in an abusive relationship . If you are married to this guy then it comes under domestic violence and law protects you against that . Marriage councilor is another option . But if you are not married to him , then there is only one solution to it , and you know what it is .
^ I think you are in an abusive relationship . If you are married to this guy then it comes under domestic violence and law protects you against that . Marriage councilor is another option . But if you are not married to him , then there is only one solution to it , and you know what it is .
*And in case you can't figure itout, it is to smack him, break his nose, then leave! Smakcing/breaking his nose is optional thoough! *
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smack them silly :p
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How can I???? I can't....
I want to refuce his haarshness... Cuz I can't leave him.... The painfull thing is that he is tooych ok & jolly with his relatives.... He enjoy the company... He laugh With them .... In fact he is dOuble personality... His abusness & too much haarshness is only for me ... But for other he is totally change... Plz guide me ... How can I remove his haarshness???
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Are you married to him poetry lover?
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how can you manage wen that person is your boss??? my boss is always harsh,his tone is like that and i hate it:mad: huh..i dun feel like doing any work for him:mad:
How can I???? I can't.... I want to refuce his haarshness... Cuz I can't leave him.... The painfull thing is that he is tooych ok & jolly with his relatives.... He enjoy the company... He laugh With them .... In fact he is dOuble personality... His abusness & too much haarshness is only for me ... But for other he is totally change... Plz guide me ... How can I remove his haarshness???
I think he is ur husband ? without telling ur relation with him, no body can guide you very well .....
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I think you should consider getting out of this relationship because noone deserves to be treated this way.. no matter what the conflicts between husband and wife be.