Walk the walk and talk the talk

Lifestyle Relationships
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Doesnt it make you so sick how people are always expecting you to act like your social bracket?

Not everyone behaves like this but alot of people do, they think that just because your not swathed in Bulgari, not having diomands studded to your wedding dress (umm maybe i just dont like the idea - hello?) and spend lavishly on changing your wardrobe every couple of months your not fit to be treated like a person of any standing at all

that strikes me as being quite shallow and superficial, these same type of people visited us just yesterday, they wanted to see the clothes i had bought for the wedding and for the parties etc afterwards,

so my mother showed the lady who insisted on seeing the shoes, the sandals, makeups you know, the lot,

i wish i had a camera, the way she looked at the things in such disapproval! just because we dont set out to impress others with our lifestyle suddenly according to her meant I’m spending too much on myself??!

they find out your family friends with some people they deem as ‘important’ and suddenly theyre so surprised that you know these people so well, or that we know them at all! What the hell is wrong with them?

I was talking about my close friends and the ladys daughter looked at me her eyes all wide, and then she said, “how come your friends with that girl?”

what are they too good for us just because theyre well known in some way or the other? the friends we have are the people we are comfortable with, the people who are sincere and honest, social brackets dont matter to us, looks or the way a person dresses doesnt matter either,

I’ve noticed a pattern as well, these people who behave like this usually come from backgrounds that arent as well off, i wouldve never taken that into account in judging a person before, but its an obvious connection to make, and sometimes its so obvious with the remarks they make you feel like screaming out of sheer frustration at them

they might be impressed with the kind of status your family have, but when they see your a down to earth person, that you dont put up airs or act like a snob they treat you like your just plain crazy

i remember a time when my mother invited the girls mother to meet some of her friends, and she shied away from the offer because she didnt want to be seen with ‘those people’.

some people are just so shallow and superficial

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just a meta comment. these people are everywhere. every single person encounters them and thinks they're awful when they happen to u. im sure everyone who comments here will think the lady is cattle fodder.

but you never see them online, you never see anyone arguing the case for ostentation, for social classes and class based prejudice. if they're everywhere, why not here?

could this be because everyone knows that its wrong, nobody will argue for it. but its not that it ceases to exist because nobody thinks its right.. but its so ingrained in our culture and selves that when our time comes, we perpetuate the same idiotic culture?

take the case with honour killing. how many dramas on ptv..how many urban killings? how many men sitting with the family, choky throated at seeing the plight of poor marvi.. hacking their sister to bits when their time comes?

im sorry for the irrelevant thought.

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Re: Walk the walk and talk the talk

so true :hehe:
I m glad I dont know such peeple :hehe: up close and personal :smiley:

If I dont like anny one or some one s being annoying, I either don t mind it, or I just say it outloud that they shoudl be ashame of themselves :biggthumb this always worked with me

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Ravage its disgusting, just bcos you treat them nicely and show your not bothered in the rat race they treat you like your mental

dutch_paki no, i could never do that, tell the mto their face they should be ashamed of themselves i mean :D my mother would kill me for my lack of manners

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**Ravage* its disgusting, just bcos you treat them nicely and show your not bothered in the rat race they treat you like your mental

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if you've got the nerve to not be in the rat race have nerve enough to not give two bits about their treatments..

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its not that im worried abt, its the fact that people i used to care for have changed and bcome so superficial

how can you stop them from thinking that way? i mean have they gone beyond the point of no return? surely they could see some sense?

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*Originally posted by Xara: *
its not that im worried abt, its the fact that people i used to care for have changed and bcome so superficial

how can you stop them from thinking that way? i mean have they gone beyond the point of no return? surely they could see some sense?
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i guess you're being vague, or in my dazed state of mind i might've missed vital details..

anyway.. if you care about them yeah you ought to be concerned. and you should ask yourself if its worth it to spoil your relationship with them, which you will, if you keep fixating on their weakness. otherwise just move on.. conform to their class consciousness if need be, ignore it if it can be ignored.

im dropping off right abt now.. so gnite and good luck.

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:hehe: yes you are right actually, lekin baat ye hai, ke dusroon ko bhi tameez se batain karni chahye :smiley:

it happened a few weeks back, a ‘good’ friend of the family said something not so nice, and he was more then twice my age.

So I said freely to him, that he should be ashemed saying such things, and he got all confused: and appologized. I dont often do it like this, unless it s something I really dont like or which I find really unpolite.

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yeah I think you're gonna find most people from every culture are like sheep and think and do what everyone else does no matter how stupid it may be.

It sucks when your friends start behaving this way too.

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i went to one of their parties, and never went back again after that

they were really humiliating kids that went to the public schools and those who live in less popular areas!

sick.

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A humble person in rags is so much more than a proud rich person would ever be.

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How about a proud person in rags and the humble rich, this all gets very confused with the endless combinations. I mean can you have expensive rags and proud yet humble naked people?

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*Originally posted by Maniac: *
A humble person in rags is so much more than a proud rich person would ever be.
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and a humble rich person is much more than a proud poor person, you get plenty of those as well :)

there are so many other poeple like that as well, but they never treat other people badly, or judge them, they are open and honest and very sincere

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What is wrong with pride?

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*Originally posted by hiccup: *
What is wrong with pride?
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What's wrong is that pride borders on arrogance, it's a fine line to walk. Most of the times it gets crossed.