Hey, ive finally found my soulmate and we are inshallah getting married in October this year.
there is just one tiny problem…on our walima he wants us to do a slow dance…I think they look silly and totally unrequired…but cnt seem to convince him.
His family are all for it, but my family are not happy with it either.
I jus cringe when I think of having to get up in front of all those people and dance…wot should I do?
On top of everything he has asked me to pick a song…how can I do that when I dnt even wanna do a dance… is there any way out???
just talk to him and tell him that you are uncomfortable, plus its not even islamic and why to ruin a sunnat like Walima by making dulha dulhan dance in front od so many people.
Lol, I've never understood the whole dancing thing on weddings. I thought it was frowned upon but every wedding I go to there doing this cheesy dance. :-\
You should definately talk to him and say your uncomfortable with it - if he's your soulmate then he should understand right? I personally don't like it when couples dance - it's such a western tradition!
if you are super uncomfortable with the idea- talk to him about it ... if he's your soulmate he is going to be more than happy and willing to hear you out!
I have never slow danced either but like yours my fiance wants us too. I am positive it will make my family uncomfortable. But I also know that family will love it and so will he ... so I'm giving it a shot. As of now.....
Hopefully i don't get cold feet before :p
we are in the process of picking out a few songs (we r doing a mix of songs) together... and that is kinda fun.
personally its a cheesy thing, even as a western tradition plus all the aunties would have a heart attack....... :p and as someone already mentioned if he IS ur "soulmate" then he should understand...maybe meet him half way?
We never did it in our family either -- not in Pakistan or in the US. But a few year's ago, my cousin did one at her Valima as it was the custom in her husband's circle (and she had just recovered from a sprained ankle and was visibly pregnant!).
personally its a cheesy thing, even as a western tradition plus all the aunties would have a heart attack....... :p and as someone already mentioned if he IS ur "soulmate" then he should understand...maybe meet him half way?
wot would be half way?
he is my soulmate...but same applys to him...this is the only thing hes asked me to do... its hard, but hes told me I cnt get out of it... its just 1 min of my life and if it makes him happy then what the hell... :)
Unless they are way maadarn, I don't think sindhis dance on weddings as women are segregated based on my experience at least. Now, punjabi weddings are another issue but then it is part of the culture in punjab to do dance shows etc.
Unless they are way maadarn, I don't think sindhis dance on weddings as women are segregated based on my experience at least. Now, punjabi weddings are another issue but then it is part of the culture in punjab to do dance shows etc.
I'm Kashmiri and I have never seen a dance. All the dances I have seen have been at Punjabi weddings.