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“I just think that he should relax a bit and shouldn’t think in terms of “Pakistani vs American” context but rather should seek a nice woman whoever it is. What do you guys think?”
Agree with this Romano… :k:
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Typical FOB story. He's probably got no chance of getting the type of desi girl he's after so I would say stick with his girlfriend if he's capable. Although I doubt he is.
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Xtreme, yeah :k: typical FOB story 
I don;t understand what his issue is Roman. Desi women are so much more ready, willing and able.
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He's probably got no chance of getting the type of desi girl he's after
Well, he admits that. According to him, his type of desi women already have boyfriends and the city he lives in don't have many desi women where he can meet them.
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So he needs to make a choice. go back home for the only desi girl he's likely to get, or try and make something worthwhile with his white girlfriend. IMO if he has some worthwhile character about him he could do either. Although from what you've said so far he'd probably be unhappy with both.
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Rom, I don’t agree with, what you agree with. Theek hai ? 
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neways,u’re right, it the typical FOB story can go both ways…my guess is you are also right abt the pressure thing..how old is he?
What's up with the acronyms? I think (in my humble opinion) all people are alike. Does it really make such a difference is someone is an XYZ and someone else is not?
Maybe just the family pressure is getting to him and he can't think striaght.
Whatever it is.... he really shouldn't get married rite now. He's not sure who he wants, what he wants, how he wants it... what's the point? Let him be sure of himself first, otherwise he will never be able to keep the girl happy.
BTW, just an aside.... do desi guys really prefer *experienced *women? Why? That's kinda like... I donno... weird.
Ana-u're right. i don't like it when ppl call me an ABCD, so i shouldn't call ppl FOBs. and good question-i thought (i know this is gross stereotyping) but ALL desi guys wanted the purest of the pure...
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Roman, either extreme suggests insecurity: whether he seeks a virgin or a "hoe"!
Why can't your friend just stop thinking purely in sexual terms regarding his future spouse and concentrate on the more important issues like a person's attitude and thinking, etc.? I mean, also, who's to say that his own sexual prowess is any more or less than any other man that girls considering him will judge by. Why, is he a Greek god or something??? :D
Trust me, he'd be better off that way. Not to say that the sex factor isn't important at all in his list of "qualifications"; of course it is, but it shouldn't be to the magnitude that this guy is making it out to be.
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Roman, either extreme suggests insecurity: whether he seeks a virgin or a "hoe"!
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Roman please explain, is he a gardner? IN that case maybe he needs to mow some lawns to get it out of his system.
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... and concentrate on the more important issues like a person's attitude and thinking, etc
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Look who's talking.
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Waisay, I agree with your either extreme is insecurity bit.
I really do think that all of you are being tough on him. If thats his preference, let him go for it, if he makes mistakes he will have to face the consequences himself right? I hope I am wrong, but judging from the responses thus far on this thread, it seems women--Pakistani women are perhaps more vocal in expressing their contempt. Believe me ladies his choices don't reflect most Pakistani-American men.
There was a time where I was really into this girl who I had grown up with. Unlike this person, I was not into the girl for sex or any other related reasons, in fact the girl was a virgin and as I understand it, she still is. For me, religion and culture became the stumbling blocks because I know that this girl who was totally soulmate material could never be the woman that my parents could see as a daughter in law. Eventhough my parents are quite liberal and they had accepted my choice, I knew I would be disappointing them and my future kids would not have the upbrining I wanted. It was funny because I actually went to my grandmother for advice, who happens to be English and married my grandfather back before such marriages weren't common, when she told me straight up not to do it, I cut the whole thing off. Then I went away college. In business school, I met my current fiancee who is Pakistani and she is just perfect for me. Not only do I respect her overall but I like the fact that she's Pakistani American like me, so shes comfortable in both worlds. Life really has came a full circle for me.
Sorry for the personal life story, but I really think that people make choices and right or wrong it is THEM not you has to live with it. Live and let live..
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