Vulnerability

There is this guy who loves this girl who is married with one son but living with her parents for few years now as her husband is abusive. Now he wants to marry her & all that jazz just because she is bechari & all.

So i was thinking is it normal for guys to get attracted to woman who are abla naaris? Do they like to do social work in the name of marriage? cuz this is not the first guy I came across who wants to help some abla naari.

Girl shared everything with him, wont that make her vulnerable & appear weak infront of the guy? Is being vulnerable a bad thing?

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What is abla naari?

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We don’t know his real motivation, maybe he just loves her for who she is, maybe he wants to be the white knight in shining armour, maybe he wants her to be drowning in gratitude. We are all vulnerable lfe is unpredictable. Strong can get sick, rich can get poor. Divorce is becoming more common and acceptable.

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Abala naari means weak woman or helpless woman.

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^ thanks

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did the guy told you… she is bechaari?

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Orrrrrr, maybe he just likes her?

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koi larka kabhi kisi bachay larki ko aesy hi nahi pasand karta… iski sab say main wajahy yeh hoskati hia.. woh larki bohat hia zabardast hogi…

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Men who hit on married women are doing so for the thrill, not to marry her. A smart woman knows that, a dumb one ruins her home.

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I know a good woman takes her beatings and gaalis with a smile, …most abusive men go to jail here and they become the abused beech in jail. When the big boys find out about wife beaters they show them extra love.

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OP has posted her husband is abusive do you know what happens to wife beaters here?

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Some people like to share their stories good or bad. Maybe you’re a guarded person who likes to keep personal stuff person and that’s why it’s difficult for you to understand this girl’s behavior.

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Well he likes her cuz they were in college together but he never liked her back then but now since she is in trouble, oppressed & what not, he now wants to help her. She doesn’t like her & he said it himself that she is busy raising her kid & ignores my messages & all. He goes like that what will happen to her if she stays like this & he worries about her future. So all in all, he wants to marry her since she is oppressed & he said “bechari ke saath aisa ho gaya”.

I dont know whats with guys & this social work.

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Hmm. Aqal ghas charnay gai hay us kee. Marrying someone because you feel sorry for them is a terrible idea.