scary comment…what about its reverse!?
make sure you trust your wife enough to not think about what she’s doing @ home when you’re at the office otherwise you might end up abusing her even if she’s not guilty of anything…I think you’re too insecure!!
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*Originally posted by funguy: *
There are other methods of testing "the ability" than getting laid. But since you are not a guy, I cant go in detail. ;)
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FG : U have been having too many Palm sundays....
^ looks like you are still suffering from a dry summer.
or may be not, never mind my faking theory
virgin ya nonvirgin...kuch bhee challay gaa...
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*Originally posted by lussi: *
virgin ya nonvirgin...kuch bhee challay gaa...
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If you can't control yourself now, how would you do that to yourself once you get married?
i find this thread amazing... i for one am a blonde bimbo when it comes to matters of the world.. i only discovered 3 years ago that muslim guys could lose their virginity before marriage.. that never occurred to me b4 until one day a friend told me to face the cold reality... i remember her exact words..
'sadia wake up! ur not gonna marry a virgin!'..
back then.. i would have said.. no way am i marrying a guy whose lost his virginity..... truth is... virgin or no virgin... it dont matter... yesh it can leave an insecure feeling... but if the person has had the guts to admit it to me.. then i'd accept it...
i go by the rule.... *ur past is ur past.. i wasnt there unfortunately to stop u.. but now that ive got u.. id like to keep u *
i would most prob accept a non virgin.. cus i reckon their honesty matters to me more than anything... on the other hand.. i dont know what the parents would think... if it came down to knowing about my guy not being a virgin.. i'd prob keep the secret b/w me and him.. and protect him from my family... some things parents dont need to know... nahin?
Allah Mian has His own rules.. and punishments... its not our job to be judgemental and punish humans... we dont have any right.. they'll be well taken care of once they go to the next life...
neways thats just me... forgiveness is good.. yet who are we to forgive?
reminds me of a story about Jesus and a prostitute.... the town peopel wanted to stone the lady.. Jesus said.. 'pick up a stone and throw it if you have not ever sinned'... not one person threw a stone :)
Honey da reverse is da same true, but I aint from da slot who sits @ home & lives on his wife’s earnings…As far as u labelling me too insecure, u don’t even know me.
I’ve alwayz found ur answers qualitative. Best Xample, I’m gonna open up my old Islamiyat books & look up that Xample, thanks 4 da reply sadzz, ur a life saver. This Xample had faded away in my memory, & thanks 4 refreshing it. U & da other guppies have no clue what this means 2 me, what this entire thread means 2 me, what I’m going thru or y I’ve asked “insecure” questions…!
U fall in love only 1nce, ur life changes 4 da better, u always have friends, but da person u love is 4eva…! This cruel world has punctured a big hole in my dreams, & I’ve spent useful time tryin 2 repair that hole. Time never comez back it just flies & allows fresh new faces 2 have a go. I asked my friendz this question indirectly & they never had an answer only an Xcuse.
Lemme correct what I meant by its “reverse”. I meant that your wife could also feel insecure and wonder what you might be doing while she’s at home! Hey you yourself said we could call you insecure but oh well if you got offended by any chance then I am sorry. Hope you get all your answers some other people. Good luck! 
I didn’t feel offended dear & I appreciate ur answers too. Looks like ur da 1 who felt offended.
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*Originally posted by mal1k: *
I've alwayz found ur answers qualitative. Best Xample, I'm gonna open up my old Islamiyat books & look up that Xample, thanks 4 da reply sadzz, ur a life saver. This Xample had faded away in my memory, & thanks 4 refreshing it. U & da other guppies have no clue what this means 2 me, what this entire thread means 2 me, what I'm going thru or y I've asked "insecure" questions....!
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always willing to help... sometimes u dont even try and it happens hehe.. ur very welcome though :)
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U fall in love only 1nce, ur life changes 4 da better, u always have friends, but da person u love is 4eva....! This cruel world has punctured a big hole in my dreams, & I've spent useful time tryin 2 repair that hole. Time never comez back it just flies & allows fresh new faces 2 have a go. I asked my friendz this question indirectly & they never had an answer only an Xcuse.
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thats so true mal1k... friends come and go (well not true friends.. they stay by ur side for a long time)... and love.. yes true love is forever..
dont let the world get a hold of ur dreams.. it controls pretty much everythign we own.. but dreams are our furture.. feelings are our assets.. yes they get used and abused.. but we shouldnt let this world take em away... dont mind me..
hmm u know a lotta people dont like discussing this stuff in public.. thats prob why they just giving u an excuse.. and a lotta the times.. people jsut think ur judging them on their answer.. in reality.. ur just trying to find ur answer in theirs... :)
Inshallah things will get better.... one day
Face ur fears, live ur dreamzzz....!
**My Dear...
It took me too long to Read all the Replies... But it was good. Its as good disussion.
To me the Bottom Line is....
If You are not a virgin dont expect Ur Mate to be Virgin.
If You have kept Ur self Virgin in the environment like now aday is..and U are very Serious about having a Virgin Mate.
U better put Full Faith on ALLAH, He will never Break Your Faith.
God Bless You**
Re: Virginity
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*Originally posted by mal1k: *
I posted this in religion forum but not many answers.
A very delicate issue. Please Xplain logically, & if some1 feels like replyin with religious quotes go ahead
1) Is it logical 4 a dude 2 find some1 who is a virgin?
2) Is it ok 2 ask a girl directly if she is a virgin?
3) What if the girl is not a virgin, does that make her ineligible 4 marriage?
4) What if a girl u like was raped....? Would u still marry her?
Let me quote here doctors can make out if a girl is a virgin or not, but its not da same 4 men....!
5) What if the girl poses the same questions - what should we reply?
Its a topic I wanted 2 discuss, but never felt comfortable.
What r ur views guppies?
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here r my replies according to ur questions.
1- why to look for virgin . i mean the more reliable and enduring thing in ur marital life is understanding and bieng virgin or not does not make much diffirence.
2- if u r much curious then ask her.
3- no . ... she is eligible in a case . as it is written in QURAN and i dont remember it word by word . it is like " aur zaani mardon ke liye zani aurtain hain aur zaani aurton ke liye zaani mard". so she is eligible for marriage if u r a virgin as well. (zaani=the one who had sex,not virgin)
4- off course i can marry a raped gul if she is not guilty of bieng a volunteer for this action.
5- i would tell my bride i had sex , if i had it.
Thanks arshad & gs 4 ur replies....appreciate them.