For those of u who cannot read the small print!
There are many Hadiths which recommend that a man must marry a virgin woman; such as the following:
“Marry virgins for they have sweeter mouths, more productive wombs, and are contented with little they get.” (Reported by At-Tabarani and it is Hasan)
Once, when Jabir married an older and previously married woman, the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said to him, “Why not a virgin? You could have played with her and she with you.”
this applies to a man just as it applies to woman. `Umar ibn Al-Khattab, may Allah be pleased with him, once heard about a woman who was married to an elderly man and he said: "O people, fear Allah and let people marry their types.”
2) Is it ok 2 ask a girl directly if she is a virgin?
hmm not sure about this one but personally i dont think so, wouldnt it all b a bit awkward??
3) What if the girl is not a virgin, does that make her inelgible 4 marriage?
loosing virginity is not a defect in the Islamic laws, because it is possible, the woman may have repented(did tawbah), so if there is Tawbah, we should accept it because a woman’s Tawbah just like we accept the Tawbah of a man.
We should allow for Tawbah and Allah (SW) accepts it from anybody.
4) What if a girl u like was raped…? Would u still marry her?
this would again depend on the man’s personality, but why not? it is through no fault of the woman. we must note here that anyone who is raped is not guilty of any sin, because the situation is beyond her control, and anyone who is forced to do something is not guilty of sin, even in case of kufr, which is worse than Zina (unlawful sexual activity), Allah says: “except him who is forced thereto and whose heart is at rest with Faith…” [al-Nahl:106]
The Prophet, PBUH, says: “Allah has forgiven for my Ummah for their mistakes, what they forget and what they are forced to do.” (Narrated by Ibn Maajah in al-Talaaq, 2033; classed as Saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Sunan Ibn Maajah 1664).
it has also been argued that young Muslim men should hasten to marry women such as these who have been tormented, to reduce their suffering and to compensate them for the loss of the most precious thing that they possess, which is their virginity.
hope this helps, Inshallah i wil get u sum more info, at the moment im really:sleep2:
Salaam
