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please do dua for her. she really needs proffessional helP!
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Her parents dn’t even care? That’s sad.. i guess they’ll be happy to be rid of hte black sheep when her boyfriend kills her.. 
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lol....the situation isn't funny, but the way u said it is funny...yah i'm weird.
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But she doesnt want to. she says she enjoys the way he cuts her and tastes her blood and that it makes her feel like a queen..astaghfirullah!!!!!!!!!
oh wow thats a bitt odd
u shud report it!!!
i think shes gone psycho too after meeting the guy
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Think very carefully about this.. do you want to save her FIRST from straying from Islam or save her from an abusive boyfriend?
If it is the first, STAY OUT OF IT... it is only her business.
If it is the second, then someone she trusts... not you.. needs to tell her the signs of domestic violence and what legal and other help is available. Let her decide what must be done.
And besides if she is a friends friend, how can you make decisions for her? She is a thinking adult of 30. She does not even know or trust you. Surely you do not know everything about her and her circumstances.
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helping is human like. it wont be bad if u can make her understand what situation she is in, but victim blaming for what ever reason won't help.
that is, she needs to know her fate herself, before she can assess the damage that is being done to her, either out of her own accord or due to some one else being strong enough to make her lose herself in that person's shadow or influencing mind games.
thank God, we know that practicing caution saves a life full of wrong choices. i wish she had known this and she would have predicted the condition she is in, at the moment.
if she is approaching 30 + with a past such as this, it is not unusual for every body to have a past. the sad thing is that she is stuck in it.
and if she truly in her heart of hearts sees that, she will be able to get out, with more strength and a lot faster.
all the best to her and to u for being fore-caring at least in spirits.
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there's something called inner faith.. a guy who listens to music and watches movies can have better of it than a guy who has a foot-long beard and refuses any media.. inner faith is what matters most, you know WHAT your religion is.. and it often depends on bringing-up
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Report abuse,,well she is 30 yr old ..she is not child,,she can only report for that abuse...ALLAH hidayat daee us ko bhee aur hum suub ko bhee,,ALLAH uss ko seedha rasta deekaye,,ameen,,(thats scary really)
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Look Chameli, there's only so much you can do, if SHE doesn't WANT help, no one can help her. So report the abuse to the authorities, if you can give her shelter, do so, but you can't force her to leave him, no one can, abuse is a very powerful thing, why do you think women stay in abusive relationships? The lows are low and the highs are high.
As far as the cutting and tasting of the blood, it is obviously outside the realm of Islam, but if she enjoys it, hey, whatever gets her off.
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gayee behns paani may
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retroguy your selection of old threads is quite interesting. :)
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thx although i'm just the kind of guy ppl would generally like to stay away from:D
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Bwaaaahahahahahahahah, haven’t heard that in so long, funny!
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ok..i just cannot imagine a good little hijabi who practices islam i belive...go right into ...all this sh**....wow....im shocked..
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y does it sound like a made up story:-s
hope all gets better… its really sad. She is kinda responsible for it ..lol if she is enjoyin it then how can someone else help her 
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when he cuts her n tastes her BLOOD...she feels like a queen...OKAY...he is a maniac...a complete phycoo i dunt belive this...as emmy sed...this to me jus seems like a mde up story...
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and Buddy wats happening all around the world…Iraq..Afghanistan…etc!!!..I thought u were being sarcastic there…but apparently not!!!
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But she doesnt want to. she says she enjoys the way he cuts her and tastes her blood and that it makes her feel like a queen..astaghfirullah!!!!!!!!!
I think he is a sadomasochistic person...and all the physical and emotional abuse that she puts up with, has made her to think its a norm!!!...CAN U CALL THE LOCAL WOMEN'S shelter and get an appointment for her to see a counselor...ask them how this situation can be remedied...also they have legal advisor too....She does need supporting group of people around her so that she can ut her defences down...and finally get some much needed help.....does she have bruises on her body that indicate her physical abuse????
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Her showing up at your friend's door after so long...seems like a last resort..sort of a desperate cry for help...Even if the abused girl herself doesn't realize that that's what she's doing..
You said she was depressed....Apparently, something was twisted from the very beginning...Although she seemed very grounded due to her beliefs and such...it's not hard to deviate when you're going through tough times...She almost seems like she's mad at Allah Miyan...Who knows what might have happend to her to depress her so much..."Rigid," "traditional" parents plus siblings who don't seem to care....It doesn't take much for a person to break after that. And then think..this one guy comes along being all nice and offering her support or whatever...Try to look through her eyes and see how she must see him...No wonder she thinks everything he does to her is acceptable...and even loving (how sad..).
This girl has totally lost perpective of things and probably doesn't realize she's being abused. Try not to get involved directly...Someone said something about getting someone she trusts to talk to her...let's keep in mind she's 30 and has knowingly lost sight of Islam....I really don't think this strategy will work but it's worth a try. The first thing you might want to do is to deal with the bf....contacting the authorities would be the best way. Once she's out of that environment, see to it that she gets counseling and such...I wish her family would take more of an active part in her life...She must feel like she has no one else other than the bf..considering how it seems as if her family has gone on with their lives without her...If only her family would cooperate and try to save her from all this.....
Anyway...Sorry itni lambi chordi baat keh di...Leykin Aap bohat achay dil ki hain Chameli key Aap isski madad kerna chahti hain...Allah Aapko kamiyaab keray....Aameen......Just don't get involved directly...or you might end up getting yourself hurt...And don't try to set out to do this alone..get your family behind you in this..make sure they're aware of everything..
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Koi baat hi nahin