Some background: my sister’s best friend, an Indian (Hindu) has been dating my friend, a Pakistani for the past 4 years. Right now, he is studying in the UK. So they are in a long distance r/ship for the past 1.5 yrs. Girl is 20, guy 23 or 24.
Their relationship had been on the rocks early this year, but every thing is now well. They broke up, and got back together after some serious issues.
Today, something really disturbing happened that horrified me, made me angry and also very uncomfortable.
Me, my sister, and said friend (let’s call her A) were at another good friend’s place. We were there at around 930pm. A was generally texting her boyfriend and not really talking to us. Chalo, acceptable. Approx 1030 i got a text message from my sister, who informed me that A has been video recording us for the past half hour. I was shocked. I looked at A, observed her for few mins and realized it was true.
Her phone was facing us, ALL THE TIME. (it’s an android covered with a leather cover, so i can only see the tiny camera, front of phone totally covered) My sister and the friend whose home we were at had left the room earlier and had discussed this. It was after that that my sister texted me.
I was just observing A for the next hour or so- despite the fact she was leaning on the bed, charging her phone etc, her phone was in her hands/arms, lap, and was facing us!!! Conversation was just very minimal, about movies and all. A didnt realize that all 3 of us girls in the room had noticed her weird behaviour. she wasnt putting down her phone at all!
At approx 1120ish I confronted A because i was pissed. I said something like this : “I hope you dont mind me asking this but i realize you have been videoing us the whole time. Are you? XYZ (her bf) has probably told you to do that to proof that you are with us but this is wrong. I noticed this last time when we were at ABC as well. you took a video of me but i ignored it. Are you recording us right now? I will not ask you to show it to me but I do hope you are not. XYZ is a ghair mard to us, he has a sister too, how will he feel if she was being recorded” etc.
(my tone was very normal, not angry at all. i was actually embarrassed to be asking such a close friend such a thing and i felt embarrassed for her too)
A looked all nervous and completely denied it. My sister and the other friend were quiet. They let me do the talking. She put her phone down, and things were back to normal and she was more active in conversations with us. HOWEVER, she started videoing us again!!! This time, my sis did not realize. I DID, and so did the other girl. but I was just in shock and didnt say anything. The host’s mom even came to the room and sat with us, talked to us, and A was still recording. Approx 12am, A left.
After that, I told my sister that A was still recording us after my confrontation. and she was SHOCKED. she said i should have confronted her again, in a more angry and serious tone. i told her i was just so taken aback. my other friend (the host) too didnt know how to react when she realized we were still being recorded.
What should we do??? We feel violated! My sister is going to send her a long text tmr night saying that we know that she was recording us.
By the way, this is not the first time we have noticed this. Approx a few weeks ago, my sis noticed A making a quick video of me and another friend making payment for dinner. (she was standing behind us). But it was for a few secs, and i didnt bother as I know that she has to proof to her over possessive idiot bf she is with us girls. Especially when it’s night time, as he has some trust issues with her and doesnt like her hanging out at night.
BUT now this is too much. SHE WAS RECORDING (VIDEO) US FOR 2-3 HOURS!!! we suspect A too demands proof about his whereabouts in the UK too, and he probably does the same for her. it’s madness! psychotic!!!
on a side note, my friend A is a REALLY nice girl, she doesnt deserve that guy at all. im sure she is under pressure to do all this proving. we always think she can find a better guy, a nice indian dude. dating a pakistani pathan is sooo not being gd for her BUT she says she loves him and well i respect that. they do have plans of marriage in the long run and i am happy for her but after tonight, my head is spinning. i cant imagine the issues they have if she has to video her gatherings and proof stuff to him. how many more times has she sent him videos of us? and why!!! i feel bad for her and angry at her bf.
i know that A was definitely recording us as it was super obvious and upon confrontation, she looked sheepish despite denial. she is generally someone who is very defensive and i am SOO sure if she really wasnt recording us, she would have shown us her phone to prove it.
GOD! crazy relationship! shall we speak to her about it?? or not at all just to not make things awkward? we are after all very good friends, and she is my sister’s best friend. we do try to keep mum about her relationship as she doesn’t talk much about it, but i really want to tell her to re-evaluate her relationship with that guy.
After you confronted her…and she started taping again…once again you kept quiet. That was like the 4th time you were being videotaped so what exactly was so shocking about it? You already knew she had done it multiple times before. And then the host’s mother came in and you kept quiet even though you knew that the mom was being videotaped too?! 
How does him being Muslim or her being Hindu have ANYTHING to do with the videotaping issue?