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^I wonder if and when karma comes a-slapping such pricks.
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Thanks to all everyones support has been very generous and helpful.
update: he felt my parents did not welcome him & his parents when they came to the house properly. I expected it to be awkward since the families did not know each other and had no communication. so now he has taken alot of time to tell me this because he didnt want to upset me.(yeah right)
he does not know whether he wants to get married or not. This is silly a person knows if they want to get married so told him im not waiting around for him to decide if he wants to marry as he should know in his heart if he does and if he not sure that means im not the right person for him.
heartbroken and sad and really pissed off! he's not worth my time.
Re: very confused
Thanks to all everyones support has been very generous and helpful.
update: he felt my parents did not welcome him & his parents when they came to the house properly. I expected it to be awkward since the families did not know each other and had no communication. so now he has taken alot of time to tell me this because he didnt want to upset me.(yeah right)
he does not know whether he wants to get married or not. This is silly a person knows if they want to get married so told him im not waiting around for him to decide if he wants to marry as he should know in his heart if he does and if he not sure that means im not the right person for him.
heartbroken and sad and really pissed off! he's not worth my time.
touche! not worth the time and effort
Re: very confused
Thanks to all everyones support has been very generous and helpful.
update: he felt my parents did not welcome him & his parents when they came to the house properly. I expected it to be awkward since the families did not know each other and had no communication. so now he has taken alot of time to tell me this because he didnt want to upset me.(yeah right)
he does not know whether he wants to get married or not. This is silly a person knows if they want to get married so told him im not waiting around for him to decide if he wants to marry as he should know in his heart if he does and if he not sure that means im not the right person for him.
heartbroken and sad and really pissed off! he's not worth my time.
So don't waste any more of your precious time and energy on him. If he was that into you, if he was serious, if he believed you were the one for him......he would have tried harder to convince his parents and maintained open communication with you. Seems that this is "not meant to be"...so move on. It will hurt and take time to get over him, but I think that the sooner you start the process of moving on, the better it is. Why prolong the state that you're in when it's not going anywhere? I think it just causes more heartache the longer you keep yourself emotionally attached to him. If he has a change of mind, he knows how to reach you and let him be the first to contact. But you shouldn't wait around to see or even hope that he'll realize your value and worth to him. So, move on.
Re: very confused
I have a question about a very similar situation.
They have been in a relationship for a few years now. Apparently initially he said he wasn't ready for marriage, needing to sort out career etc. Now that is all done. She has met his parents and he has met hers but both sets of parents have not met in a rishta context and no proposal has been forthcoming. He comes from a very liberal family so a relationship is cool with them and they are not pushing for marriage. She wants marriage but won't ask him about it because she doesn't want to be pushing him into it- it should be his own decision etc, Anyway, he is aware marriage is important to her because her family is an ordinary pakistani/muslim family (i.e. fairly conservative) and it is not acceptable to her parents and very stressful for her to be in this relationship, getting older, turning down rishtas you know the usual.
I think he is probably stringing her along and she will end up getting hurt but interested in what other people think?
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the reason I fall short of saying it is because I know these days as people become more westernised and gora-fied this kind of thing is probably more accptable but even then no matter how modern or liberal you are if you are of pakistani origin I think you must be able to recognise the importance of marriage in our culture no?
Re: very confused
Um yes he is stringing her along and she is stupid for ignoring other rishtas
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the same thing happened to me .. the guy led me on for years and then dumped me at the end because he knew i was so attached to him that i could not get out of it .. at the end when he was getting married to someone else and i rejected a rishta for him then he jsut laughed and said i ****ed your life over .. so be careful because then you will be left hanging at the end feeling really down with your heart broken and its not a nice place to be
Wow
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How can you make a girl who is "in love" see what is going on sigh
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How can you make a girl who is "in love" see what is going on sigh
They are the worst. I just back away when friends go berserk in love after giving them one last stern lecture.
And yes your friend's dude will have his fun and get married at the drop of hat when he wants to.. . To someone else. She's going to be left heartbroken.
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They are the worst. I just back away when friends go berserk in love after giving them one last stern lecture.
And yes your friend's dude will have his fun and get married at the drop of hat when he wants to.. . To someone else. She's going to be left heartbroken.
I want to say something but don't want to come across as being all negative. What do I say? He doesn't love you because he won't committ. I feel terrible saying it because she's so head over heels and convinced he's so into her. It's also difficult because I was in a similar ish situation a few years ago ( he was actually too young, immature and not settled in life) but he came around soon after as he sorted himself out. I don't know if she looks at me and is hopeful. My guy had a genuine reason though and it didn't take him too long to fix it but yeah when he didn't step up I leftt him and began to look elsewhere.
she always says what can I do- I don't want to push him and "make him" marry me- he should say it himself...
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I guess difference was in my case he cared enough to say don't wait for me I don't know what will happen and didn't string me along. I worry about whether this guy cares as much. But then who am I to say? She is the one in the relationship. I don't know!