Very complicated & weird proposal experience..need girls advice

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Re: Very complicated & weird proposal experience..need girls advice

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1. I just need to say that I go to med school in the US and there’s at LEAST 15 fairly conservative (but normal) Pakistani girls here that are SINGLE and in medical school. Like one of the other posters said, girls from pakistan that are becoming drs come with their own struggles. I know guys (and gals) that have gone to pakistan to find themselves a dr spouse only to come back and have that same person sit at home for 2-3 years studying for their boards they can’t pass. Keep that in mind.

2. Sounds like this girl was from more of an elite, upper class background. Again, my cousins that hang out with people in that social circle, tend to…be kind of over the top even for me–and I grew up in the US.

3. I want to be horrified by the fact that this girl sent you intimate pics and stuff but…again, I guess it’s not all that weird from what I’ve heard from cousins/friends (not that it’s normal by any stretch but it’s just not as mind-boggling as I would’ve thought it was a few years ago). Yes, there are girls there that are very casual about sex/intimacy.

1. Yeah I know there are Pakistani girls in US med schools but unfortunately Ive had bad luck–no pakistan girl in my community is becoming a doctor and there were no Pakistani girls in my medical school. Perhaps if I had gone to schools in bigger cities or state schools I could have had more interaction with Pakistanis girls there.

2. Yeah she was definitely over the top even for US standards in almost every aspect of her life. Even white guys don’t like it if their girlfriends are always hanging out with other guys or always trying to draw attention to themselves. Even for Pakistani standards, there were some like her and Im sure some even worse then her but MAJORITY of the girls in her school were not acting like she was–she was just to the extreme and wanted to be popular.

3. Yeah this is what confused and bothered me the most initially was just how casual she was about sex/intimacy/nudity. I was viewing it as a huge deal and thinking she was going to be my wife while she took it so casually and carelessly and didn’t think twice about ending it over things that could have been easily resolved and worked out–things that are such basics of any commited relationship (commitment, loyalty, faithfulness, sacrifice, dedication, reliability, etc). She ended it because she was giving more importance to fun and socializing, not realizing what she had. Because she surrounds herself with guys, she thinks it’s easy finding a decent educated guy who she will have good chemistry with and be crazy about her–clearly her own friends haven’t been able to do so because their boyfriends treat them like crap and some even cheat on them but those girls still put up with it out of commitment and loyalty (whether that’s foolish of them or not to be with guys who treat them badly is another topic of dicussion but I never treated her badly). Sex/intimacy was just another form of fun and excitement for her. She was just very immature and had wrong priorities in life while even though I too made mistakes I at least was trying to take our relationship and commitment more seriously–fun will only take you so far in life and what happens when life throws you challenges how would a girl who emphasizes fun all the time react to such hardships??