Very complicated & weird proposal experience..need girls advice

[Paheli00]

Re: Very complicated & weird proposal experience..need girls advice

With the sexual video and pictures…obviously the girl has MAJOR character issues. That being said…this really got my attention.

@pak2015

Issue #4](http://www.paklinks.com/gs/usertag.php?do=list&action=hash&hash=4) : She sometimes wouldn’t wear any duppatta in public even during mixed gender school party functions which I guess is a fashion trend in some more modern areas of Pakistan. I’m not even talking about covering her hair, she sometimes wouldn’t wear any duppatta period in public while wearing shalwar kameez. Although I know Im not her father, her and I were commited and I asked if she could dress appriopately based on the environment she was in (ie while she’s in Pakistan just grab a duppatta before going out in public because thats what most girls are doing but when she’s in US wouldn’t have to wear duppatta–basically I wanted her to wear what majority of other women around her were wearing and not always try to stand out). But I never became controlling in the sense that I wouldnt check up on her or question her asking if she actually did wear one–nothing of that sort ever happened and neither did it cross my mind. Maybe I was wrong to even bring up the topic but is it really big enough reason to end an otherwise good relationship?

If a girl came and posted only this about a potential rishta, I would say this is a HUGE sign of control. You are not her parent or brother. You are not even in Pakistan! You never even met this girl in person! There was no baat pakki…no formal commitment from either side. Obviously her parents are ok with her going out without dupatta. Yet you somehow felt that you had right to change how she dresses. If this is how you feel right now…I would hate to even imagine how you would be once she’s actually married to you and you get to actually see what she’s wearing.

@pak2015

basically I wanted her to wear what majority of other women around her were wearing and not always try to stand out).

Ok so I have to ask this b/c I think this is the first time a guy has ever made this statement in GS to my knowledge. Do you plan on ever going to a western beach with your wife? Perhaps a vacation to Hawaii or any other top beaches in the world? If so, as a Pakistani Muslim, would you be ok with her wearing a bikini? After all, that’s what majority of the women will be wearing in that location.