We all vent…and most people consider it essential to blow off some steam and think that it keeps one from going nuts/explode/implode..
But the thing is…mostly we are frustrated at other people’s behaviour…and venting involves ‘discussion’ of those other people…which you know…is something which matches the definition of backbiting…
So my question to you is..
How do you draw a line between venting and backbiting are you able to distinguish between the two…??
is it even possible to vent without backbiting about the people who have irritated you?
Depends on what are you venting against. If they cheated you or others then it is not backbiting. If you are talking about some of their annoying habits then it is backbiting.
usually when i'm venting, it's mostly about how i feel...not to do with others. btiching is when i talk about how another person's attitude or behaviour has irked me. i am guilty of both.
usually when i'm venting, it's mostly about how i feel...not to do with others. btiching is when i talk about how another person's attitude or behaviour has irked me. i am guilty of both.
There is no difference between the two. Talking crap about someone without their knowledge is backbiting/venting/whatever-you-want-to-name-it.
There is, however, a difference between dissing and discussing. When you diss people for absolutely no reason, or for the lamest of reasons, or out of jealousy, make up lies about them, defame them at every given opportunity, that is wrong. But I have a self-given right to talk to someone (my family or friends or random internet users) about those whose words/actions have hurt me/my loved ones in some way. If that discussion also counts as backbiting then yes I am guilty of it.
But I have a self-given right to talk to someone (my family or friends or random internet users) about those whose words/actions have hurt me/my loved ones in some way. If that discussion also counts as backbiting then yes I am guilty of it.
That is only natural, I doubt if most people who got hurt would be able to keep their feelings to themselves without discussing it with a friend or family member.
What category does gossip fall in then? I mean, you see two typical aunties and they'll be discussing something like someone's broken engagement. No dissing or anything, just spreading the info and chaskafying in it.
What category does gossip fall in then? I mean, you see two typical aunties and they'll be discussing something like someone's broken engagement. No dissing or anything, just spreading the info and chaskafying in it.
Thats like clear and obvious backbiting...
my question related to like....you are pissed at someone.....and you are reall really pissed i mean...and you just have to tell somebody how that person pissed you off.... and anybody pisses you off...i don't think you can humanly vent about that person without having some contempt and ugly thoughts towards that person....
This does bother me a lot! If I need to vent about someone's action that has annoyed me, I usually do. However, it is often in the back of my mind if I am infact back-biting, which makes me feel bad.
