Re: Various questions regarding moving, childcare, and working parents
Roman, I would HIGHLY recommend living closer to your wife's residency program. My wife is just finishing up her residency and we live in NY state where the 80 hour work week has been legislated for over 10 years. NJ legislated the 80 hour work limit in 2005 I think and so the programs there are STILL trying to deal with the scheduling. As a result, your wife will work up to 100 hours a week some weeks, to drive 30+ minutes before and after long days is going to be torture for her not to mention very dangerous. Imagine having to negotiate traffic, bad NJ traffic with no sleep in 24 hours.
In general, while she's in residency, you are going to have to make A LOT of sacrifices. Get ready brother, I wish you all the best. It's worth it but it's a lot of work for her AND for you.