Vacationing separately...when you are married

[Paheli00]

Re: Vactioning separately…when you are married

@Niksik

I’m all for hubby going for a weekend out with buddies and having a blast, and although I have never spent a weekend with my friends I think I wouldn’t mind doing that once in a while.

However, I am seeing that a lot of separate vacations, alone, just because they need time away from their families, to relieve work stress, etc. Just alone. Maybe I cannot understand the benefits of that but somehow I cannot seem to enjoy myself if I’m not with my family.

What are your thoughts and experiences?

IMO nothing wrong with it as long as the couple is also taking vacations together.

Earlier this year my SO and I went on vacation for 1 week. About a month after we got back, SO went to Peru for 1 week with 4 of his guy friends…it was a “boys trip” and they had a blast (2 of the guys that went with him are married and their wives were ok with it). In January I’m going “back home” to visit extended family…While I’m gone overseas for 10 days, I have encouraged SO to plan a “boys ski trip” for him and his closest guy friends. Meanwhile we’re talking about planning a vacation for “us” for next summer. In between all this…we routinely go away for “weekend trips”.

I prefer vacations that’re relaxing and full of “luxury”. While SO enjoys those too…SO also wants “adventure”. So this is a way for us to compromise. I knew SO wanted to go to Peru for a long time but I have no interest in going there. SO loves to ski but that’s not “my thing”…last time I went with him, I spent the day at the spa while he was skiing! This way…SO and I enjoy vacations together…but for his “adventure” vacations…he can take his “boys” with him and they can have a blast without him having to “babysit” me.

I think it’s great to have separate vacations with friends as long as both people are ok with it and both take vacations together. But I also understand that this is not for everyone.