How much would you rank such friends? Is it possible to remain angelic and rather super human to such friends who always come to you only when they have some task for you to fulfill? Or do you think its just normal to utilise your contacts to serve your own purposes in the sacred name of friendship?
Im sorry but im just too sick lately of such creepers.
It's natural for friends to help each other out, but some people are definitely just pathological spongers. I once had a friend who used me constantly for free child care, covering shifts at her restaurant, even asking me to make some returns to the store for her because she was too busy. A few times she gave me some of her old, used clothes or shoes, as some kind of thank you gesture. Finally we had some argument about something, and she said, "I can't believe you would talk to me this way after all I've done for you." I realized then how thoroughly narcissistic she was---she never saw the things people did for her, she only saw the things she could get out of people.
Anyhow, that spelled the end of our friendship and I'm pretty quick to drop anyone who shows a pattern of taking advantage of me because we're 'friends.'
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Now that is exactly my point here. How long can such relationship work? Ok even then, giving away your used belongings as a friendship gesture (?) is one thing. But rather feeding on someone else's blood is another. Some people are just good for nothing fellows. What can you do to aviod such people? Wouldnt it call for your own validity as a friend?
What can you do to aviod such people? Wouldnt it call for your own validity as a friend?
In my case it took a couple of bad experiences to train my 'BS monitor.' Now when my BS monitor goes off, I simply walk away from the relationship/avoid the person, no need for it to go any further. If you're observant and careful you get really good at figuring out who is truly a friend in need and who is just out to sponge off everyone.
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Either say goodbye, or stop giving and START TAKING from them n see how they respond.
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^ a gem of an advice! :k:
But it really requires balls enough to stoop as low as that :hinna: