Re: Urgent question about marriage and culture
Haq meher can be anything from cash to land to a home. Usually parents decide it between the two families according to their financial position.
I dont think there is anything wrong with her demanding a home in case something happens. Its a form of security just like cash would be, right? However, she should take your finances into consideration before making such demands. Haq meher is also based on what the families can afford and agree on.
One of my sister's haq meher is $30,000 while a friend of mine has a meher of one million. It cant be just a random amount...has to be a practical and doable amount for the parties involved.
Look at it this way: if something goes wrong, khudana khwasta, you need to be able to fulfill the obligations of the nikahnama without a problem to allow the two of you to move on with your lives. Niether of you should be left penniless. :)
Leave it to your parents to decide and good luck!!!! :)