Re: Urgent Help
Nomi, do you really think that a wazeefa is going to cure the root of the problem? I believe in making dua and all…but the root of the problems (IMO) is the parents of the girl. The extended relatives can give suggestions and opinions but they have no right to impose their decisions on them. And if the girl’s parents are postponing their plans because some relatives (whom they don’t even get along with) are against the rishta…then that makes me wonder if they’re the kind to seek kaandan approval for every single issue.
The relatives (if they’re the meddling, bitter, jealous, control-freak type) will never be happy. They’ll always have something to complain about even if you do try to please them.
Today it’s the issue of a shaadi…tomorrow it’ll be something else. They can’t be changed…the parents of the girl need to strengthen themselves. Instead of praying for the relatives to become raazi and happy with every decision you undertake…it’d be better if they pray for some strength and confidence.
Honestly, if the girl’s extended family is soooo involved in every affair and if they impose and hold grudges…I sympathize with the guy who wants to marry her…cuz there’s a chance he’ll have to deal with frequent drama later on as well (after marriage…it if even takes place).