Ur opinion?

[njgal]

@Colourful eyes

I have heared from alot of married women, “Men are only sweet to u at the beginning of Marriage, until they get what they want”

is this true?

“Until they get what they want” - what exactly are the wanting? If it is what I think it is then they really don’t stop wanting EVER! you might be a bit tired but they keep wanting

And as long as they are wanting - they will as sweet as you need them to be

[navaidishere]

@Colourful eyes

I have heared from alot of married women, “Men are only sweet to u at the beginning of Marriage, until they get what they want”.

Its as true as the fact that women look forward to the wedding and men look forward to honeymoon. :YES!:

>>>Pyar<<<

[CE]

"Until they get what they want" - what exactly are the wanting? If it is what I think it is then they really don't stop wanting EVER! you might be a bit tired but they keep wanting ;)

And as long as they are wanting - they will as sweet as you need them to be :)

hahaha,

[njgal]

ok, so say if there's a girl and she is totally smitten by the new hubby, at the beginning and after a few months she see's another side to him. then what?

is it not like falling in love with another person? i suppose this could also be said the same for new wifes too, and why they change after Marriage.

i have seen it so many times, it's fine to say it's not true and it shouldnt be like this. But then why am i seeing it all around me.....

Guys do like the chase.... so don't make yourself all available and sappy and la la love crazy. Do leave a little mystery.

Marriage takes a lot of work just like any other relationship. If you want that certain feeling when you first got married - leave a little mystery. Put in effort as you USE to do intially.

Many woman think that a way to a guy's heart is by keeping a clean house and cooking and being a good mom. From my personal experience, husbands don't care about that. They care about you CARING for them.

Keep your aspirations, go on walks, hold hands, communicate with each other. It's only when you put your marriage on "auto pilot" that you will see that the other person starts changing too.

my two cents

[CE]

@Amour;6196785**

well i dont agree with this statement, men CAN get the samething from someone else if thats the only issue here.**

i guess when starting a relationship both are excited and put effort to it, with time other things may take over, thats normal. but even though it should stay strong if there is not silly things that annoy eachother, cause these things make people slowly put off the efforts they put in and become careless about steadily. atleast thats my behavior. I try try try to explain and if I am taken not seriously or not understood by someone I leave it. if that happens more, it does create resentment towards a relationship.

i hope this statements not true either, but the way i am hearing it, it’s like, they only keep u sweet until they get what they want e.g. Wont complain about ur dress code, will take u out, Buy u gifts, spend quality time with you, etc etc…once a guy has slept with his wife he know’s she aint going anywhere (plz someone tell me im wrong:bummer:).

ofcourse guys can get sex else where, but they cant get a good respectful wife from anywhere, and tht’s my point,

[Red_Ruby]

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Its all about expectations. If your expectations rise after marriage and they cannot be fulfilled by ur partner then u will see it as he/she has changed, buy why have expectations. Just enjoy ur life together and let life flow by smoothly instead of demanding things.

Its not all about sex. If u keep each other happy, and satisfied there shudnt be a reason for him/her to go elsewhere, if they do then u know u married a jerk but not all are like that.

all i say is live and let live. dont turn into a nagging wife cos thats the one thing most men will say drives them away, and vice versa. just enjoy each other and each day as it comes

[Red_Ruby]

[quote=“Colourful eyes, post:1051, topic:191349”]

i hope this statements not true either, but the way i am hearing it, it’s like, they only keep u sweet until they get what they want e.g. Wont complain about ur dress code, will take u out, Buy u gifts, spend quality time with you, etc etc…once a guy has slept with his wife he know’s she aint going anywhere (plz someone tell me im wrong:bummer:).

ofcourse guys can get sex else where, but they cant get a good respectful wife from anywhere, and tht’s my point,
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yeah men can get sex from anywhere but these days so can girls. times have changed and its not only the guys that are free and chillin its the girls now aswell. ive heard so many stories about what some girls are up to when theyre husbands are working and it truely shocks u, but thats the day and age we live in.

slightly off the topic but before i got married if i ever went out to a certain club or a bangra gig mainly i would see the most shockin scenes, asian girls/women, wearing shalwar kameez pouncing on any men that would walk in. and they would be drinkin and everythin. these women i found out later were married and their husbands would be working on taxis or take aways and they would put their kids to sleep and comeout to have a good time. its was a repulsive site cos they didnt have any dignity, they wud just literally throw tehmselves at these guys some that were teps and i cudnt undertsan how they had the guts to leave the house and kids and do this and they wud come every week, get drunk and go back home and be the perfect wife.

[skausur]

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I hope it's not true

I think all effort should be put into the marriage by both parties - You need to keep things new alot of women give up on themselves after marriage they become boring you should always look your best for your man do things together different things not same old routine day in day out

[citrine]

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^^ yea thats the trick
lol:D

[skausur]

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Well thats what i gonna try anyway lol - hopefully i won't need to coz he will be smitten with me always inshallah

[shweetdreamz]

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not true. its just that after marriage the way u show appreciation and love towards your partner may change. so ...he may not be bringing flowers for you everyday but he is doing ALOT of other things for you that he did not before marriage...such as working his butt off to secure your good future, dealing nicely with your relatives, making every decision with you in mind...and later on providing for your kids. if u think about it...he is giving you even more time and attention than before because every decision every action of his involves u ...and guys dont expect us to write love ballads to them after marriage either...but they sure as hell can see how we take care of them.

if he's a nice guy and he loved you before marriage then he will continue to show that love (just packaged differently) u gotta keep your eyes open and let go of the whole bollywood notion of him singing songs and taking you to impromptu trips to a secluded island every weekend. im not saying people should lower their expectations of their partners...but to instead focus on what a guy is doing for u rather than what he is not doing for u.

[D_rkNgt]

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wow ..sweetdreamz …u r soo sweeeeet …u mashAllah hav a wonderful approach ..:pkj:.

[Orpheus]

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well said shweets.