Uplift my mood please fellowsss

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I called him out on being an Internet White Knight. He's just trying to compensate for that I suppose.

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I only moved to a different state and I did not like it, so I am sure moving to Pakistan which has completely different culture from London may not be very exciting.
What helps is to have some friends and to be able to get out and do things.
I have lived in Pakistan and I was always able to go out. Did not even have a car and used public transport but I was fine with that. Not sure if you have a family restriction to not go out alone though.
If you are in Peshwar, I have seen some good parks out there and it is probably nice weather these days so you can go out with your baby. Try making friends like may be some family living on the same street.
You can enroll in some class, anything you are interested in and that ll keep you busy.
If you keep on thinking you dont like it there, you never will because you will never attempt to find soemthing entertaining for yourself.
Trust me on this one. When I moved here first, I just hated it and kept telling my husband I ll never like it here but things have worked out. I tried not to think of the things I hated about our new place and even though its not as great as our previous place but not as dready either anymore.

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Aww Nadz :hugz:

I know you’re a strong girl and you will get through this. Often in these situations, its a good idea to push yourself to do things. Make some friends, other young couples with a baby around your daughter’s age. You will have someone to talk to, identify with and enjoy yourself.

Inshallah, all will be well. Dont give up just yet…you have to give it a good try.

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are you in pakistan?
if so why dont you take courses.
i know some people in pak, after they finish studies they take courses such as floroculture or sumthing...this way you will get to meet new people ..you can make friends and hang out with them! :)\
or start your own lil' business...or teach at a school!

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Yeah maybe - take some courses like shopaholic said, or start a book club - any local women? Or start a sewing club. Or some sort womens club were you meet. Clearly you are home sick. You need more people around you. I guess its going to be hard, nothing in life is easy. I can only say your thoughts and feelings may change with time. If you really hate it though, come back. I know people from here marry there - and move out. But not everyone can go through that route. I have been there for a few weeks and at the end of it I am pulling my hair out. Its boring and drab for me. So I can sympathise, things may change with time. You need make more friends and socialise more. Or have a routine and stick with it, keep yourself busy.

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Maybe it's time for you to pump out another baby, that should shut you up for a while.

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Don't want to be rude, but what was the hurry of getting married? Your husband didn't have a job in UK, and he's struggling to find work in Pakistan, and I'm assuming any idea of you working is out of the equation. You probably won't agree, but career/financial stability plays a massive role in achieving happy households, especially if you gonna play the housewife role. Its human nature to desire success and security.

Anyway, which part of Pakistan are you living in? (You really don't like answering this question do you? lol)

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Btw, I would suggest that you do some of the housework, I think the boredom is really getting into your head. Ignore the maids, bit of ironing, cooking, moving and manging things (the way we do here London) will keep your mind busy and finishing tasks more often than not give you a sense of accomplishment.

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Yeah it’s not easy in a new country, and I think you’re right to give it some time. IMO, a year is a good idea. I’ve been in a few situations which I thought were really difficult but you adapt, get used to it, and find yourself actually enjoying the new opportunity.

Keep yourself busy, read some books, do TV marathons (The Sopranos, Entourage, my favs lol), learn a new language, whatever. Just because you’re at home doesn’t mean you’re useless. And having a career is not the only way to grow and open your mind. In fact, staying at home gives you more opportunity to learn about what you wish instead of taking crap from your boss and filling out meaningless reports at work.

Also, watch these videos, really short, and I guarantee you’ll laugh. Also, the women fighting for chivalry will love the second one, that man is pure class.

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So how are you helping your husband these days?

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And he is clearly over-doing that.

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well try to get a job - if cant then you need to find yourself a serious hobby ...

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Hang on in there Nadz, it's early days still and once your husband finds a job you'll settle into a routine and start enjoying yourself.

Why not make a list of things about england that you DON'T miss :D

I'll start it off:

  • taxes
  • rising cost of petrol
  • queuing up. At least in pak (and especially in NWFP) ladies get to jump the queuem especially those with babies
  • spending your week counting down to the weekend and then spending half the weekend depressed at the thought of another week looming ahead (that might just be me though)
  • Paying bills, rent, mortgages etc etc
  • Having to check whether any food purchased is halal

Hopefully others will add more.