shes ( bahbhi for anyone who forgot) starting talking to me again (said salam) so then i said walakumsalam and hugged her n we stared speaking again and she invited me to the shower one day before ( i thoguht it passed ?).. anywayzz i went cuz i thought it was the right thing to do .. it was nice but her friend became a meethi churi and hurt my feelings .. and i feel sad now .. im so dumb first i thought she was actually nice and i started taking to her and got happy but now i know why she told me to sit down .. n y none of the other her freinds were talking n y they were just staring at me .. oh well at east its over .. mera farz poora hogya .. now if any of her friends pretend to like me and be nice to me and want to talk to me ill just smile and take a leave n sit with some other people .. lesson learned but feel sort of sad still .. girls can be mean in a chalaak way and if youre cluless you can just sit down n take the bullets .. how fun .. when i realized i just got up and left but i still feel dumb to have sat there in teh first plaace when i knew that it was her best freind .. oh well
do most girls really do this ? .. i feel sort of surprised .. get their friends so involved in their feelings towards their nands/bhabhis enough that they would feel the need to punk them (nicely) when they meet them ? my friends wouldnt do that nor would i tell them to do something like that .. i cant believe it i thought stuff like this stayed in the house .. whats ur girls experience with this stuff ?
You can't control how others are going to treat you/talk about you...the only thing you can control are your own thoughts and actions. If their behavior is bothering you so much, just stay away from and any scenarios that will force you to interact with your Bhabi's friends.
Ran way? okay look I would never be comfortable around my bhabi let alone her friends…just play with your phone while you’re attending her function.
Maybe there's a slight chance that your bhabi had good intentions and it's just her friends that are immature?
Soni, if you had gotten angry at those girls and showed them that you were hurt.......you would have satisfied them because that was their goal. You ruined it for them by behaving with dignity....of course they would never admit that to you.
I would say continue to behave in a polite way with your bhabi. Don't even show her that you're hurt/angry. Act confident, cheerful....as if had no effect on you at all. Knowing that her scheme produced to fail the results she wanted to see would secretly bug her FAR MORE than you confronting her and making a big deal out it. Who knows.....maybe by seeing your positive/mature attitude.....she might......at a later point feel some shame/guilt for her actions and those of her friends.....and perhaps this realization may lead her to make the effort for a better relationship with you. Whereas getting mad at her will only result in this back-n-forth feud between you and her. You did well, Soni...you acted like the bigger person. Be polite...but cautious about actions/words with your bhabi...since you feel you can't trust her.
thanks mkd .. sweet of u .. ignore is easier said than done though .. if i completely ignore her .. its hard and if i do talk to her she pretends to be nice in front of my bro but then does the meethi churi thing really chalakly n tells so i dunno .. what is a good balance .. i fi completely ignore her she tells people that they dont even care about me dont even want to talk to me and everyone accuses us of ignoring her and hating her but if i do talk to her she tells me off and insults me but indirectly and iwth a smile .. so its sort of frustrating situation ..
soni: your new bhabhi will going to kick you out from your own family. i think that should be serious family masla for you. instead of crying about her chalakiyan and silent treatment on you, you should keep your butt safe from her.
soni: your new bhabhi will going to kick you out from your own family. i think that should be serious family masla for you. instead of crying about her chalakiyan and silent treatment on you, you should keep your butt safe from her.
keep my butt safe ? i dont understand .. im leaving anywayzz
.. n y none of the other her freinds were talking n y they were just staring at me .. oh well at east its over .. mera farz poora hogya .. now if any of her friends pretend to like me and be nice to me and want to talk to me ill just smile and take a leave n sit with some other people .. lesson learned but feel sort of sad still .. girls can be mean in a chalaak way and if youre cluless you can just sit down n take the bullets .. how fun .. when i realized i just got up and left but i still feel dumb to have sat there in teh first plaace when i knew that it was her best freind .. oh well
okay look I would never be comfortable around my bhabi let alone her friends…just play with your phone while you’re attending her function.