Re: unwanted interference from mother in law
Hello guppies. I would appreciate some encouraging words or some advice here.
I’m visiting Pakistan with my 9 months old dear son. I’m staying with my in laws until my husband is here. Once he goes back I’ll stay with my own family until I go back.
Right now I’m just getting depressed by my mother in law’s every 15 min piece of advice. My baby has been teething thus has bad fever and all. He has become a lil weak. My mil keeps stressing that I should feed him less milk and more food. My NAND makes this sagu Dana something mixture with milk, she also makes suji and milk mixture too. My mil forces me to feed that to my baby. I’m sure these things might help him gain weight but is it healthy? Is it not extra unhealthy calories? I’m sure it has no protiens/ vitamins or any other healthy stuff.
My second concern is that my baby’s sleep routine is going through a time change. He has been a very good sleeper mashallah. Now that when he sleeps at odd Pk timings, my mil starts stressing I shd wake him up and that I why is he sleeping so much. I get upset when she starts on that. Finally my baby is getting used to the place and started sleeping well again I can’t take my mil’s uneccesary advice.
Third concern, my sister in law’s 2 kids ( a 3 yr old and a 1.5 yr old) are way too hyper for my calm baby. They won’t let my baby play with his toys. They ll keep his toys in their mouths then throw them on the floor. I find my baby putting the same toys in his mouth. I can’t monitor him 24/7 bcos everyone wants to hold and watch him play. When in the room they ll come get him from me. My baby just got flu and everyone advising me to give him baby Tylenol while I want to take him to the doc.
My baby uses pacifier, my mil is against it. I know I need to wean him from pacifier but my own way. My mil will take pacifier away from him for hrs resulting him getting very very fussy and frustrated.
I can’t wait to go back home already. Please advice how do i deal with the situation and do not get depressed about it. I know my mil is excited to see her first grand son but so much stuff is depressing me now. I was trying to take all this positively but can’t anymore.
Welcome to the Club. Went through the same when I took my son to Pakistan and paid $150 each extra to run back to USA. Husband did not visit Pakistan at that time but he did have new found respect for me when he learnt what I went through. Take your baby to the doctor and tell your MIL that you are following doctor’s orders whenever you do something as you as a mother want.