Unncessary worry?

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I’m not sure whether this question will be clear because I didn’t understand it clearly myself.

"If a person claims to love you, should that person necessarily be able to give reasons ‘why’ he loves you? Is it acceptable if the person says, “I don’t know why, but this is how I feel. There is no logic.” "

Is there a red flag in this scenario? Or something to be cautious about?

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When you fall in love...you dont fall in love with just one thing about the person...its the whole package...the good and bad. If you ask the person WHY...it will be hard to answer because there cant be just one thing to love about you or even two. He/She probably fell in love with the entire person and the reasons could be a hundred.

Its a difficult question to answer sometimes.

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Thanks Reha, that sounds reasonable...although initially I agreed with the girl that he should have listed a few key points to make things...less abstract....I guess?

I found it a bit funny when she said, "What if he falls for someone else for no reason"

Any male opinions on the topic?

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Well if I loved someone it wouldn't be for just one reason and I think it'd be hard to explain it.

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True, he could have said a few things to help her see what he loved about her.

Maybe a better question for her to ask is "what do you love about me?"

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either ur frined is insecure about herself or about the intentions of the guy ..

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The intention thing is obvious...and I did mention the insecurity bit to her..

Thanks Reha and Unos.

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I would be a bit ticked off too if my significant other did not say something.
When I asked the question, he told me a longggg list.. I had to stop him from talking because I thought it would never end
lol.. soo filmi and romantic

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^ :)

My SO can never give me a reason, or the reasons he does give are very basic things about my personality (nice, intelligent, pretty). So, I don't know what's up with that. I do know that he loves me dearly. It bothers me sometimes. But I am coming to realize that some of the basic things about my personality that don't mean a whole lot to me, make a world of difference to him.

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So your multinick has its own multnick SO or is it the same guy?

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CM are you insinuating that Amour = Jojo? :confused:

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Nope. I am stating that the one who enjoys life is in fact a multinick. But not yours.

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I dont think defining love is an easy thing.. especially for men!

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Love…OMG :omg: :rotfl:

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Multinick with multinick SO with multinick guys!

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Do you believe in laughter therapy? Old wounds, eh?

I kid, i kid!

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OMG…wounds?? u believe in it…:smack:…sorry to sound insensitive…

btw…its not that difficult…just throw some cheesy lines…u good to go about ‘expression of love’..:smiley:

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Love is hard to explain………. Love doesn’t require any reason it just happens unintentionally.

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Most guys are not good at putting feelings into words so he should just tell the girl what she wants to hear. A few cheesy lines about her nain and zulfein.

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Back in the day such moments would cause a right uproar... the guy would have to do something very brave/ very stupid to prove his love...

This day a strategically placed box of chocolates and flower bombardment should suffice... gone are the days of pompus chest beating :)