You have a cousin - getting older and not married and prospects look bleak. Family requests you wed him/her.
You know them. They’re nice. You’re just not attracted but you also don’t want them to be lonely the rest of their life. Family is putting on a lot of pressure. What do you do?
Re: Unmarried cousin
hmmm tough
does the person like u?
whats not attractiev about them? something that cannot be improved on? sometimes what we find attractive now, will mean zilch in a years time.... and sometimes, what we never even thought of, will become the one thing we totally adore in our partner
and yeah, what exactly do u want out of ur life... do u think he is someone who can walk with u in gettnig there or is gonna hold u back?
stuff the fact he's ur cousin.. and dont feel sorry for him. Im sure he'd hate u if he knew ud only married him for that reason
Re: Unmarried cousin
i would talk to her/him and tell them my confusion, this way he/she will know how i feel and then hope that things fall in place, it also depends how much i wanna get married as well, i mean if i dont want to just settle i would probably refuse, but that goes from ppl to ppl.
do not make a life changing decision based on feeling sorry for the person
Re: Unmarried cousin
If the cousin is not a psycho feminist then i'd think about it.
Re: Unmarried cousin
This is a hypothetical situation.
i would talk to her/him and tell them my confusion, this way he/she will know how i feel and then hope that things fall in place, it also depends how much i wanna get married as well, i mean if i dont want to just settle i would probably refuse, but that goes from ppl to ppl.
Now apply this advice to your latest problem
Re: Unmarried cousin
Probably try to get her a match among the people i know !
As you cant marry some one - just for the sake of helping her . I wouldnt !
Re: Unmarried cousin
I think it would just be weird marrying my cousin...I would instead try to help them find someone, and tell my family to back-off, cause I don't see this working out! I don't think you should sacrifice your life in that way...and if things turn out bad after marriage then the whole khandan is involved and I don't think that's a good situation to be in!
ill marry u.
PCG here comes an offer:)
ill marry u.
Good luck - this site will need a whole new server to deal with that one!
Re: Unmarried cousin
Whats going on with Greenberet PCG? Bag him while he's roaming out there. Work your "ehemm" magic. ehmmehhmmm ehmmmmm hmme hehmm ehmmmmm I need a cough drop!
Re: Unmarried cousin
I couldn't do it. Anyone but a cousin. I see them all as brothers and even call them 'bhai'!
Re: Unmarried cousin
A marriage based on preassure will eventually break when the one preasurized will speak up and trust me, it will happen sooner or later, so no I wouldnt marry him.
Re: Unmarried cousin
i will tell family and the cousin that i am not a bakri.