unhappy marriage.

[diwana]

Re: unhappy marriage.

@Sara_pathan

It is not the big things, maybe you wed-locked folks all suffer this. I dont know. Hes a 90percent good man, however its the small things that are making me unhappy. I am not sure if they are indeed small or not.
Like, when he asks for something for example to turn the tv off and lets sleep, he will expect me to turn it off asap, rather than me say, not yet i want to watch it, even if he says ok, hel sulk about it. just now, he was making the baby sleep while i was watching something ( its not a daily habit just some drama i like comes on once a week) and he was saying when does it finish, i said 1min, now after that 1min i went to clear up the other room and put the washing out, after few mins he got angry and was telling me off, he wouldve shouted had baby not been aslp/and others in house not aslp, anyway his voice was loud enough for baby to hear who woke up crying, and he just put her on her cot and told me to put her to slp, the way he put her into her cot, not in a gentle way, ok so he didnt slam her in, but gussein mein kiya, was enough. almost as if he couldve taken his anger out. didnt even understand what hes angry about.
other things like his manner can be harsh/quiet, he talks very formly to me in front of others, hes a very formal person, never gets involved in gupshup with people, keeps himself to himself. hes different when we alone, but i want him like that all the time. not so formal.
if i cook something andif he doesnt want to taste it, he wont.
if i ask him something, hel say ok ok in aminute in aminute..never when i ask.
if i ask the question why…to anything, he gets angry and says why u asking why…

ps.I never make him turn off tv, or whatever. even if i say stop playing games ( ps3) he will say ok one more game…sometimes he does listen, but he will still play until his interest finished then he will say ok you stop whatever ur doing too…

I had enough. I wish i never married him.

None of these are reasons for regretting the marriage.

You might be a little too sensitive there. OR he may be needing some time to himself and does not want to be bothered.

@Sara_pathan

hes just an informal guy, he prefers to stay home and not even go out with mates. even his dad asks me kay isse ghar say nikalo ( as in to go out and do something not stay at home like some housewife lol)

yeah he is always like this, everyone goes quiet around him, because hes so quiet and formal. ive seen my cosins husbands they all joke around in front of me to their wives, he calls her babes in front of me, and has a laugh and joke even at her expense, yes sometimes it can be odd, and i sued to think thank god my husband doesnt do all this in front of others, if i make bad food he wont say ewww in front of others, but tell me privatly, ive seen my cousins husband say infront of me eww whats this…

so i was thankful.

but now im annoyed at what i previously thought was nice. the fact that he gets angry, and is quietly angry and then has this horrible manner, i feel like i wish i had taken my time before saying yes. the thing that annoys me most is why cant he be all nice nice in fronf of others,make me feel special so everyone can see he loves me. he just acts so formal even to me infront of others.

anyway its the anger bit that bothers me, he just gets angry and never admits when hes wrong and never looks at himself, always points the finger.

One thing there…getting angry part need attention.

O/W still no reason to regret.

Waiting for you to add some real serious horrible reasons to regret.