Re: unhappy marriage.
Some guys are shy like that about expressing themselves in front of others. As someone once told me, every marriage has a different personality. So just like no two people are alike, no two marriages are either. Added to that, he might not have the social skills necessary to feel comfortable being that free in front of others.
The anger bit needs work. But what exactly do you want to do? Do you love him? Do you miss being with him? Do you want to work on your marriage? It sounds like you do in my opinion but you’re hurt because of his attitude with you - and rightly so.
You have to.
Sara, your first step (again these are things people have told me over the years that have always been true) is to resolve to make things work.
Second will be to kill your ego (not saying you’re egotistical but egos get in the way of understanding real feelings). They prevent us from getting to the root of the problem and also saying what we actually want to say.
Third will be to pick your battles…differentiate what potential conflict deserves a response and what doesnt. The more you fight, the more value your fight loses…hope I make sense here.
He just sounds like he needs to be reminded of what he has and to appreciate it. No one can give him that ehsaas but you.
thanks,
so what should i do. I do not want to talk to him. because of the fact that I DO all the time. Make the effort first. I want him to know how i feel. but when i talk to him, i dont think its serious for him. so i need to stop. tell me what to do please, although talking to him first, isnt something i want to do so please think of something else.