Unfaithfulness, how can it be forgivable?

[Deeba1234]

Re: Unfaithfulness, how can it be forgivable?

@redvelvet

There might be a chance for forgiveness if the person who was cheated on feels/realizes that they made mistakes that encouraged their partner’s infidelity. And I feel that the above sentence may lead to confusion. So to clarify, there’s no justification for infidelity. But perhaps if one person realizes that their own actions…such as frequently having a bad attitude or being emotionally unavailable …may have created a distance in the relationship that led their partner to seek fulfillment of their needs elsewhere…then there may be room to think, “Chalo meri bhi ghalati thi”…and to forgive. However, in the case where a partner has a victim-mentality…then they make think that they are always at fault or deserving of poor treatment from their partner. But then that’s an esteem issue.

I understand what you’re saying and you’re right about people needing fulfilment but I feel some people (not you) are too quick to say the wife should change or accept if her husband is being unfaithful.. And saying “do it for the children” really irks me.. Firstly, are us women so worthless we should only exist for others’ happiness? And secondly as if kids are so stupid they don’t realise what’s going on.. Is this the way to bring up children, by lying and trying to cover things up? Is it good for our daughters to learn if husband cheats best just look the other way?

If the the other person is lacking in some way that’s still no justification to cheat imo.. If you really want to be with someone else there are solutions such as separation or even divorce, solutions which don’t involve lies and deceit.. No-one should feel they need to stay in a sham marriage..