My father passed away few weeks ago. A healthy person, no illness, 100 % fit died while standing.
We are so broken. I never gt to talk to him or say anything to him. I never gt to pray for his health. My mum have health issues and I pray for her health all the time.
I was his favorite once and now he was unhappy with me for some reasons which i could not find out.i wanted to talk to him about his bitterness toward me but he wasn’t willing to talk and i never gt chance to find out.
He worked his whole life to make everyone happy but no one was.
I cant live thinking my father wasnt happy with me. I don’t know what to now.
I don’t even know what to pray for him. Everytime i try to pray i end up praying for his health. I am totally lost, struggling to survive.
:inna:
Do any ibadaat you can think of and do isaal sawab for him, e.g. recite Qur’an, dhikr, give sadaqah with the intention of him getting the reward for it. May Allah have mercy on him and give him a place in jannah and give sabr to the family to cope with his loss.
@Roshni I’m sooo sorry to read this. May ALLAH bless your father in the best level of Jannah and grant you and beloved ones patience in these moments of grief.
When I was in college, my childhood friend passed away and after few days I was talking to his mother who was with great courage and I asked the same question that now when he is gone i dont know wut to do. His wise mother told me that everytime I think of him I should recite three times Surah-e-Akhlas and pray for him immediately. You can do the same.
Rest as CO said, Ongoing sadqa is one of the best ways. Please accept my condolence.
I am so sorry for your loss, I am not a very religious person so I might not be able to help you with Duas but as a father, I see my children as my contribution to society and as my legacy. My biggest wish would be for my children to be happy, successful and to contribute to society so if you want to do something positive be successful and people can say that your father left a great person behind. A part of him lives in you.
It is also important not to beat yourself up about his bitterness towards you. Especially since you made an attempt to find out why. And your father didn’t clarify the reason.
Parents are not perfect. His duty as a father was to at least explain what the problem was.
It is pssible that at the end, he may have regretted not reconciling. And may have felt bad about it. So when you speak with him, tell him it is OK. That you dont hold this against him. That you know he loved you. And that is all that matters.
So sorry to read about the death of your father and your struggles of coping. I wish and pray that you are able to make peace with his passing. As others have mentioned above you can pray and ask Allah for forgiving your father, for granting him Jannat, etc. While praying for your father, don’t forget to pray for yourself and others who are also wounded by his sudden passing. Remember, Allah has a plan for all of us. It was his time to go, and, you nor anyone could have done anything to prevent your father from returning to Allah. Best wishes!
:inna: Sorry to hear that and May Almighty Allah grant him Jannah. Ameen.
It was narrated from Abu Hurairah RA that the Messenger of Allah :saw2: said: **“When a man dies all his good deeds come to an end except three: Ongoing charity (Sadaqah Jariyah), beneficial knowledge and a righteous son (child) who prays for him.”
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Why think negative? I mean now there is no use of thinking / talking to somebody that 'I don’t know why my father wasn’t happy from me and I can’t live thinking he was angry upon me. Instead of thinking in that way, you may try to become a righteous child. Read the above hadith especially the last underlined part.
You can outcome to this trauma if you try being a righteous child to your father by praying (making dua) for him like after 5 times daily Salaath, or after reading Qur’an / Surah, or when you or somebody else talking about your father and at that time you make dua for him and like in many other situation.
Sooner or later you’ll be proud on yourself and can say easily to everybody that “Yes, I’m the righteous child of my father, because I do make dua for him right after offering my obligatory Salaath, fasting, charity, etc.”
This is how you can benefit your father in the most needed time.
Assalamualaikum warahamtullahi wabarakatuhu!
May Allah forgive him and have mercy on him and grant him highest place in Jannah Ameen
May Allah grant patience to you and your family Ameen
I hope he was so happy with you In šāʾ Allāh (إن شاء الله,) but You are now a source of comfort for him for the next world and do as your best to please him and send Duas of maghfirah to him so Allah will raise his rank by His mercy In šāʾ Allāh (إن شاء الله,)