understanding the long lost hiding nature of past friends

[Dushwari]

dear girlfriends ( sahlilees) , how might we (Pakistani- Muslim young women) try to understand as to why boys and men who we thought were in our lives, silently just go away, VANISH.

what are their motives for such a bye-bye and why should we care?

ever wonder, if he happens to turn out to be u r future boy friend’s or husband’s friend or colleague?

how will we handle such a situation to avoid confrontation an spark?

think and then post as this matter is quiet tricky, from what i 've heard from others.

[Capricorn]

Re: understanding the long lost hiding nature of past friends

@Dushwari

dear girlfriends ( sahlilees) , how might we (Pakistani- Muslim young women) try to understand as to why boys and men who we thought were in our lives, silently just go away, VANISH.

what are their motives for such a bye-bye and why should we care?

ever wonder, if he happens to turn out to be u r future boy friend’s or husband’s friend or colleague?

how will we handle such a situation to avoid confrontation an spark?

think and then post as this matter is quiet tricky, from what i 've heard from others.

I would need to know what could be tricky in it? People can just go away due to miscellaneous reasons and when you happen to see each other again, its always a good feeling.

[nia_khan]

Re: understanding the long lost hiding nature of past friends

Everyone has a past and we all need to understand it!

When you start a new house with someone you need to let that person know there was another house but its demolished at this point and move on.

and if they [spouse] run in to that person in your past- let the spouse know and they should respect that and move on.

again we all have a past.. even our spouse....

[WitchDr]

Re: understanding the long lost hiding nature of past friends

@Dushwari

dear girlfriends ( sahlilees) , how might we (Pakistani- Muslim young women) try to understand as to why boys and men who we thought were in our lives, silently just go away, VANISH.

what are their motives for such a bye-bye and why should we care?

ever wonder, if he happens to turn out to be u r future boy friend's or husband's friend or colleague?

how will we handle such a situation to avoid confrontation an spark?

think and then post as this matter is quiet tricky, from what i 've heard from others.

Hearsay!

[Afridi786]

Re: understanding the long lost hiding nature of past friends

Maybe they vanish because they mature, or maybe they realize that they are sinning.

There is no solution for the problem you stated, either the friendship between the two will dissolve or your relationship will start to fall apart...all thanks to you!

Seriously, what's wrong with todays ummah.

[Mr_Fraudia]

Re: understanding the long lost hiding nature of past friends

@Afridi786

Seriously, what’s wrong with todays ummah.

ummah thurman?

[Afridi786]

Re: understanding the long lost hiding nature of past friends

[saimanyc]

Re: understanding the long lost hiding nature of past friends

You would have to ask the guy what his motive is for disappearing. But if he just vanishes that shows his immaturity in not being able to end things clearly. Just move on and don't think about it.

[Mr_Fraudia]

Re: understanding the long lost hiding nature of past friends

@Dushwari

dear girlfriends ( sahlilees) , how might we (Pakistani- Muslim young women) try to understand as to why boys and men who we thought were in our lives, silently just go away, VANISH.

what are their motives for such a bye-bye and why should we care?

ever wonder, if he happens to turn out to be u r future boy friend’s or husband’s friend or colleague?

how will we handle such a situation to avoid confrontation an spark?

think and then post as this matter is quiet tricky, from what i 've heard from others.

if the guy does not leave ‘silently’ as you say, but its a bad breakup, a logn drawn out, mind game filled hell of a relatonship which somehow puts itself out of your misery, or if it is a clean break where he just says ’ aint gonna work..bye’ or one of those ‘its nto you, its me’ or even if it is one of those happy happy joy joy, 'oh we are not an item but we wills till be pals" sort of breakup…

even then, if this person ends up being your next main squeeze’s or fiance’s or husband’s best friend, or neighbour, or brother, or rival, etc, would there still not be some stress in that interaction…

[Impulse]

Re: understanding the long lost hiding nature of past friends

if he left...he was a jerk anyway so theres no need to care about an idiot like that.

as far as him meeting ur future husband/spouse......if u tell ur husband/spouse, depending on how ur future spouse is...they will behave differently....my one would most likely beat the crap out of him.