Hello
I am a divorced 28 year old Pakistani woman here in the UK. I am currently sharing a flat with a friend called Sameera in Watford, Hertfordshire. I work at Burger King overtime and I am interested in knowing how I can sponsor my parents from Pakistan here to the UK. It’s really difficult now as my parents have to be really sick to prove they need my care here. I really think they should be with me rather than there. I also want to know where I can look for rishtas for my sister from Pakistan here in the UK. She is well educated, humble, modest, very pretty…but I am scared that my marital status of a divorcee will affect her rishtas here in the Pakistani community.I am also undergoing severe depression as my ex-husband keeps on emailing and text messaging me with pics of his new wife(he had an affair with her even before we got married-his parents forced him to marry me, his cousin-and then he divorced me for her) and their baby. It hurts me really badly and I think I will go mad soon.
Re: Undergoing depression and need help for rishtas and UK visas
Awww I'm sorry you're going through so much.
I can't be of much help though but good luck.
And inbetween all this please don't forget to take care of yourself.
Re: Undergoing depression and need help for rishtas and UK visas
I am so sorry to hear that. I dont know how you can move your parents here but as you look in so much depression my advice is whenever you feel it read quran with translation and you will feel that withink minutes you are feeling happy rather than depressed. Thats what I always do.
May Allah solves your problems. and one more thing a good family will never make an issue of your divorce in terms of your sister rishta so when you find one consider them for ur sister :)
Re: Undergoing depression and need help for rishtas and UK visas
Sorry to hear about your situation. It's not possible for your parents to live in UK on permanent basis and calling them over on visit would cost you a lot. Also, it's very hard to find rishtas in UK for a girl who lives in Pakistan. Most people who marry from Pakistan marry within their family...it's rare for a British Pakistani to marry someone from Pakistan outside their family.
You are still young and I think you have every right to move on with your life....you can build up your career and look for a partner. Mosques are pretty reliable for finding rishtas.
Re: Undergoing depression and need help for rishtas and UK visas
change ur number /email id and get a report filed against him. he cant keep mentally harrasing you. ur lucky u live in the UK and can take legal measures to stop him.
Once his dear wifey finds out he’s been texting/mailing you she wont be too happy either 
so stop being depressed at his childish antics and take control of your life & well being. that will teach him that ur not depressed/effected by his tactics which will make him stop.
Involve your self in something other than work, join some friends for a book club or even a support group where you can have an outlet to interact with people who understand what ur going through.
May Allah help you, but remember you need to help yourself too.
Re: Undergoing depression and need help for rishtas and UK visas
thank heavens that you have a roof over your head and are able to work and support yourself…imagine what life would be like if you didn’t have this much!
focus on building up your financial stability and looking after your mental well-being…that will help you to move on in life.
you might consider volunteering with a group at the local mosque…being able to impact someone’s life with visible results will help you to build your self-esteem.
look to Allah…He controls everything.
