Is it possible to love someone (except your children or parents) unconditionally? especially your spouse?? And if it is, is it a 'good' thing to love your spouse unconditionally?
I think that one would have greater "tolerance" of those that they spend much of their time with such as siblings/spouse.
Parents (there are exceptions) tend not to disown or abandon us no matter how many or serious our shortcomings may be. The bond is stronger.....hard to put into words.
With the exception of parents.........I think we have to "earn" our other relationships, if that makes sense. You "prove" to your friends that you are worthy of their friendship. You "prove" yourself to your boss. You have to work hard at your marriage to keep the spark alive and going and to prove/earn the attention, approval, commitment/loyalty of your spouse.
I guess it's possible for some people to love their spouse unconditionally. You'll find some women who get beaten up by their husbands regularly............and they still believe they "love" their husbands and can't seem to ditch them. Although, in this scenario......I would think that low self-esteem is the issue here more so than the "unconditional love." If you are allowing your spouse to frequently walk all over you, treat you like dirt...........then you'd have to reflect over whether your immense tolerance is a result of "unconditional love" or whether there are some other underlying problems such as insecurity, esteem issues.