Is it possible to love someone (except your children or parents) unconditionally? especially your spouse?? And if it is, is it a ‘good’ thing to love your spouse unconditionally?
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it's possible, but i'm not sure if it's always a good thing. you can be in love with somebody who isn't good for you.
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my love to everyone is unconditional :)
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of course its a good thing to love a person unconditionally. shows how pure you are in your love. and yeah there can be a downfall also, in a case where you're so pure in your love but you dont get the same unconditional love back.
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Would you guys say that unconditional spousal love lacks passion and/or expectations? Often times, expectations make a relationship stronger, isn't it?
Any married folks out there who can share their experiences...
Is it possible to love someone (except your children or parents) unconditionally? especially your spouse?? And if it is, is it a 'good' thing to love your spouse unconditionally?
I think that one would have greater "tolerance" of those that they spend much of their time with such as siblings/spouse.
Parents (there are exceptions) tend not to disown or abandon us no matter how many or serious our shortcomings may be. The bond is stronger.....hard to put into words.
With the exception of parents.........I think we have to "earn" our other relationships, if that makes sense. You "prove" to your friends that you are worthy of their friendship. You "prove" yourself to your boss. You have to work hard at your marriage to keep the spark alive and going and to prove/earn the attention, approval, commitment/loyalty of your spouse.
I guess it's possible for some people to love their spouse unconditionally. You'll find some women who get beaten up by their husbands regularly............and they still believe they "love" their husbands and can't seem to ditch them. Although, in this scenario......I would think that low self-esteem is the issue here more so than the "unconditional love." If you are allowing your spouse to frequently walk all over you, treat you like dirt...........then you'd have to reflect over whether your immense tolerance is a result of "unconditional love" or whether there are some other underlying problems such as insecurity, esteem issues.
Of course it's possible, you get some husbands and wives who refuse to leave their partner no matter how many times they are cheated on, beaten up or taken advantage of. Also, you come accross some parents who stand by their kids (more often boys lol) whatever trouble they get into..
Of course it's possible, you get some husbands and wives who refuse to leave their partner no matter how many times they are cheated on, beaten up or taken advantage of. Also, you come accross some parents who stand by their kids (more often boys lol) whatever trouble they get into..
Husbands who beat the crap outta their wives are sick,for sure.It mostly happens in desi families.Its not love or tolerance or whatever,Its their problem(socity,many other countless problems) which makes them stick out not their love(how can u even say that its love,darn)!
If a woman gets a secure future,she would definetly ditch that wacko and even if she doesnt she should ditch him n get on her feet!
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You can love someone unconditionally but never expect something back. Loving someone unconditionally means, taking care of them, loving them, worrying about them, doing things for them and more. Now if they appreciate the things you do for them is another matter. It does not always happen. I love someone unconditionally(not in the married sense, but a friend) and I am always up for anything for her. Means i'll do anything but I never burdened her with this fact. I never imposed my "lub" you can say on her. There are times, when she does not talk to me, there are times when I annoy her but I wait patiently. One of the things about loving someone unconditionally is having patience and being tolerant. If you did not have these qualities then if you really love someone unconditionally you learn them.
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I think some of us are confusing the issues here. I absolutely love my husband unconditionally. That in no way means that I'd take abuse. Or a situation like poor Tiger Woods wife. Hands down, I'd get out. I would still love him and theres nothing I can think of that would ever change that...but as far as what I'd take, thats a completely separate issue.
Husbands who beat the crap outta their wives are sick,for sure.It mostly happens in desi families.Its not love or tolerance or whatever,Its their problem(socity,many other countless problems) which makes them stick out not their love(how can u even say that its love,darn)! If a woman gets a secure future,she would definetly ditch that wacko and even if she doesnt she should ditch him n get on her feet!
No, I agree with Redvelvet that often it's low self-esteem but also you do get some women (and men) who have such intense love for their partner they will always love them no matter what.
There was a case over here in the UK last Dec involving a girl called Sahar Daftary who died after falling from a building (her family think it was murder, hubby said it was accidental). Sahar had found out her new husband was already married and then dumped him. His 'real' (ie legal) wife said she still loved him and stood by him even after this and the fact he had cheated on her numerous times, had had run-ins with the police and a drinking problem. In her eyes she probably thinks she has such a strong bond and that much love for him she would never leave him. There was another case in Court this year where an English woman tried to hire a hitman to kill her husband and even after that he said he still loved her. Not everyone in these situations has self-esteem issues, sometimes it is just blind love.
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Oh wow, shocking.
No, I agree with Redvelvet that often it's low self-esteem but also you do get some women (and men) who have such intense love for their partner they will always love them no matter what.
There was a case over here in the UK last Dec involving a girl called Sahar Daftary who died after falling from a building (her family think it was murder, hubby said it was accidental). Sahar had found out her new husband was already married and then dumped him. His 'real' (ie legal) wife said she still loved him and stood by him even after this and the fact he had cheated on her numerous times, had had run-ins with the police and a drinking problem. In her eyes she probably thinks she has such a strong bond and that much love for him she would never leave him. There was another case in Court this year where an English woman tried to hire a hitman to kill her husband and even after that he said he still loved her. Not everyone in these situations has self-esteem issues, sometimes it is just blind love.
I would never ever like a guy who cannt respect me or cheats on me or beats me up.Atleast im not n angel or more precisely a wacko.
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I don't think so there is such thing like unconditional lover other than your parent's .
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okay suppose i said i loved my husband unconditionally. then he died and i remarried. does this mean i didn't love him unconditionally because i remarried?!
okay suppose i said i loved my husband unconditionally. then he died and i remarried. does this mean i didn't love him unconditionally because i remarried?!
No,
the show must go on na.Its human nature to forget things/people/events with time(if they arent with you anymore).