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I do not go to the houses where they enforce iron curtain, I mean purdah.
No matter what the reason is, no one should be made prisoner in their own home.
I had 2 best friends living in town in US and we used to have weekend meet up almost every next weekend and although non of the bhabi do hijab/pardah and we had many discussion on common topics, most we (the guys) used to confine ourself to either living room or backyard unless we are helping the girls out in cooking (BBQ etc) or eating at the dining table.
PS: that to talk freely on whatever topic we want to (and allowing the same to them) was another motive 
No matter what the reason is, no one should be made prisoner in their own home.
Thats' exactly the sentiment I have, and even if its just for a few hours...it feels like that.
I've been to large davats where the men were in one room and women in another, or on a seperate floor...the only time there's contact is a salaam-dua or if there's kids running around...that to me is no big deal....
Smaller davats with everyone in same room but the guys aren't freely chitchatting with the women...
but tbh in homes where there are this type of purdah that i'm talking about..it goes both ways. the wives do come in front of the relatives, and its not like the men are freely chatting with the women...only in front of everyone else.
i understand what you mean sara
one of my cousin got married in a family where she was told that she have to do parda except for her dad and brothers..last time my brothers saw her face was on her wedding day which was around 8 years before...they have curtains in their house everywhere so if some guests are in their house, she is not suppose to come infront of the men while her husband sit in the living room and talk to the aunties and girls
oh yea forgot to tell that she is living in UK
last year dad went to uk and visit her house but she was not allowed to come infront of my dad..he was really upset because she was like a daughter to my father.
so it sound strange to me..her husband can sit with me and chat for hours but his wife is not allowed to come infront of my dad and brothers...
That's pretty sad, isn't an uncle meharam?
^This LOL
Im sure that the feeling is mutual 
Re: Uncles
It goes back to our society twisting religion to their benefits. We DO live in a very patriarcal society still.
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I understand why the guest is blamed for staying so long when the women are not allowed to move freely around but the father/husband should know better.........he should take the guest into a seperate room where the door could be closed or outside or something.........
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it gets really annoying when these men(guests) stay for such a long time...
alhamdulillah no such thing has happened to women in my family...we have separate living rooms for men and women...men's living room is the first one, the one nearest to the exit:D..so they're pretty much out of sight...in other familys i've noted that the men usually go sit in the balcony/stairs/corridors/verandah, so that they are not in the way....