Re: unbelievable or what?
Look, we weren’t there when that question was asked. We can’t say with 100% certainty that the aunt had the intention to make her feel bad. We didn’t hear the tone of voice. And sometimes even when you do witness something…you can’t be sure of the intentions because you don’t know what’s in someone’s heart. Sometimes a person’s tone of voice naturally sounds rough…sometimes their manner of speaking can sound less than gentle.
And I’ve seen Aunties that…even when they have good intentions or are trying to show concern and be nice…end up doing it in such a tactless way. For example, Aunti notices your hair is fine…and gives you suggestions on things you should use…in front of other aunties…making you feel uncomfortable with the spotlight…but the intention could have been the right place…but the method was really stupid. Or in examples where a backhanded compliment is given…maybe not intentionally…but the person was careless with the wording. So sometimes people might have the desire to help…but the method could be very tactless.
Whether one tactless aunti chooses to help find a rishta OR has no intention of helping and was only insulting…the Aunti’s behavior does not seal the cousin’s fate. Nor is her future dependent upon this one aunti. She’ll get married when it’s meant to be…and will have a happy marriage, InshaAllah.