unbelievable or what?

Paheli00 · September 28, 2010, 1:39am

Re: unbelievable or what?

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say your nearly 30 yr old girl unmarried, and have come to pak. you visit a relatives house, and the first thing they say to you is bacho ( aunty talking to her kids) go and show her around the house, show her all the rooms, this is literally within 10 seconds of entering their home for the first time, and the within the next 10 minustes the aunty also asks ok so your 30?, to which you reply, no il be 30 in few months aunt says oh same thing, so whats your date of birth?i mean wtf…

im astonished at this aunts questioning, possibly due to the fact that shes unmarried, and marriage is the be all and end all of our culture. wish i couldve kicked her in the teeth…

whats the issue with this kinda mentality and how do you deal with it.
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theres 2 issues here, not just marriage one, but the fact that my aunts house is NOTHING, i mean she painted it nice, but hey its a normal 3 bed**…we all have a 3bed terraced house…she was showing it off like it was buckingham palace…

Just because your aunt doesn’t live in a mansion, that doesn’t mean that she should not be proud of what she does have. The house may be “nothing” to you…but to your aunt, that’s her “palace”. Whether it’s a 1-bed room tiny apartment or a 6000 sq. ft. house…I don’t think there’s anything wrong with a woman to show of her house proudly. I used to drive a Corolla and now I drive a much “nicer” car. I was no less proud of my Corolla compared to my current car b/c even though the Corolla wasn’t as flashy, it was still mine and I worked very hard for it.
As for the mentality regarding marriage and age…that’s a common “aunty” mentality. Personally, I always respectfully answer the questions…but it doesn’t annoy or bother me. I’m confident in myself as a woman and at the decisions I’ve made as an adult. Whether or not an aunt or someone else approves of my decision doesn’t bother me. Life is full of other “real” problems…few comments from some aunt about my life is the last thing that would ruffle my feathers.