Re: unbelievable or what?
BOTH of those issues are out of your control. It’s not your aunt’s fault that she owns a house that is considered “nothing” by you. I’m assuming that she doesn’t work…so maybe that’s the kind of house her husband could afford…or perhaps that’s how they prefer to live. As far as showing off is concerned…perhaps she truly does believe that her house is wonderful…or perhaps her praising it could be a cover up for her own insecurity. Who knows? Thing is…neither you nor your cousin can control this in your aunt.
As far as the “marriage” issue is concerned…that’ll happen when it’s meant to be. Yes, it was crude of your aunt to ask only 10 seconds into your cousin entering her house. Perhaps your aunt is planning on finding a rishta for her and needed to know her age…but that question COULD have waited. Again, you can’t control your aunt. And your cousin, being in defensive position where she has to live with someone…probably felt like she couldn’t say anything back to her. Her age could also be found out from her parents. But maybe she thought “Hey I’m her aunt…no biggie if I ask her on my own.”
^^^You could have “made Aunt feel silly” by jokingly saying to her “Aunti…abhi to woh aayi hai…aik minute bhi nahin hua aap k ghar main.”
Yes, we have a lot of “baytakalluf” behavior in our culture that comes across as very tactless (and often times it is). You do what you can in trying to better a situation…to an extent. And if you can’t even do that…then you gotta realize that you can’t raise your blood pressure over every little thing that you can’t control.