Re: unannounced visits
You’re exhausted to the point where you’re falling asleep while driving. I can’t even describe in words in fully just how dangerous it is. You can cause an accident where you can die or end up paralyzed/brain damaged. You can end up killing/seriously hurting another person and end up in jail. My husband is a physician and I work in the legal field so believe me, I see/hear about all sides of this when things go wrong and it’s not pretty.
I would think being a mother, your child would give you the courage/strength needed where you’re not doing something so stupid. In this case, the heck with what your husband/others think. These “relations” are your relatives too and there is absolutely no reason why you can’t talk to them. They may text your husband on his cell and once you’re out of work or even when they show up, there is no reason for you not to explain to them just how exhausted you are and that you would appreciate them scheduling these visits with you at least a few days ahead of time. There is literally zero excuse for you.
Whether or not this is “normal” shouldn’t even matter in this situation. As a mother, you have a responsibility to make sure you are doing everything possible to keep YOURSELF healthy and safe so you can be there for your child. Next time you wonder about “Log kya bolen”…think about what your child will say when his mother ends up dead/paralyzed/brain damaged or in jail b/c she fell asleep while driving.
You are right. But would you believe I’ve mentioned these things subtly to my visitors, and they still haven’t gotten a clue? In any case, you’re right Paheli. No excuses.