I planning to go for umrah in june INSHALLAH, i have a daughter she will be 26month old in june, although my mother can take good care of my daughter still i want to take her with me
but i am so confused because people saying its going to be veryyyy hot in june:teary1:
please tell me what shall i do? is it a good idea to take her with me? i am going with my husband.
we have planned 14 days umrah and 7 days in dubai.
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Both the times I have been there I have seen people bringing their very young kids and having a rough time and I have seen people leaving their kids with relatives and again having a rough time as they were missing them. However , personally I would leave my daughter in Pakistan just to have the satisfaction that she is safe as haram and masjid-e-nabwi are very crowded and it's not easy to protect your children there.
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yes my husband is also saying that we are going for the first time and he thinks that it is not a good idea to take her with us.
i am a working woman and the problem is i have noticed she is very much attached to me now previously she was not as mama is taking care of her in my absence
she waits for me whole day, she knows at what time i am coming so she waits for me looking from the terrace.
when i reach home she does not go to anyone else she wants to be with me, when i am not at home she gives mama a tough time does not eat anything shouts and all.
this is the reason i am confused as we will be out for almost a month
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We went there twice, back in 2002 & 2003 with both of our boys. First time my eldest was 3 years old and his brother was 13 months old. An year later we went again n this time I was expecting too. Both times we went there in June on our way to Pakistan. Alhamdulillah it was alright. The only points I considered as problems were going to Haram shareef for Fajar as the kids would either be sleepy or hungry at that time, while being right there you wouldn't want to miss on any prayer time. Then other problem was when you are about to pray and they need to go to the toilet. :) Both times we didn't mind the heat though.
We went for Hajj in November 2009 leaving all 4 of our children in Pakistan with their grand parents. I missed them a lot but I was very satisfied otherwise as I could perform everything with much concentration and peace.
So it work both ways, just weigh your options :)
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yes its gng to be very hot since i m experienced myself so this year huby went alone n i was here wth my daughter n by the way i think my june it will get very crowdy also bc ramadan crowd vl strt gathering there
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Yes, it will be very hot although it's not as bad as Pak as the heat is dry.
Personally, I would not take your daughter because then you cannot focus your whole mind - one eye will always be on her.
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I am weak-hearted :( I would still take them along or wait for a couple of years until they are big enough so I can keep them with me. I know I wont be able to concentrate at all with prayers,etc if I leave them back home :( But since I have done loads of umrahs Alhamdulillah I know I can wait. You said yours is first time so I might be reluctant going for it with kids for the first time too.
My sister goes with her kids every year while they were a year old but like Afia said, for fajr, she and her husband took turns staying back in the hotel with kids and prayed in their room for that.
My mom used to take us along when we were really young with a strap tied to our and her foot :D because she tells once I was sleeping besides her for isha prayers and suddenly I woke up and ran crying .. poor her knew but she didnt quit her namaaz and later found me from another section after the prayer was over (I was 2 yrs old then). Ladies around told her that mothers kay liay namaz torni jaa'iz hoti hai agar uskay bachoan ko koi aisi serious problem ho jaye. So she used to strap us with her after that till we were 4-5 yrs old. That's just a tip if you decide to take your daughter along :)
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we went there last year in june for 21 days.v left our 4year son and 3 year daughter with their grand parants.i realy missed them but also i was very comfortable doing my prayers at time.it was very hot specialy when u r out in sun
ur trip is 14 days and i think pass away easily whith only one kid
pls make sure to have hotel vey close to Harram otherwise it,ll very difficult for u to bring ur baby along u for Zahhar,Assar and Mughrib bcz it is realy hot in june, july
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hmmmm my mother is saying dont take her she said she will take care as inaya is with my mother most of the time
Although i am going to miss her A LOT but i think i should not take her with me.
Thank you so much ladies:flowers:
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that is probably a good idea. My hubby was upset that we were leaving our 13 month old with my parents and going for umrah. But we were going during ramadhan and it is almost like hajj season. After getting there we both realized that it was a good decision not to bring Jr. with us. It was hard to get place for salat for ourselves and with a little kid it would have been even more tiring especially during the day.
It was a short time just 5-6 days and Jr. was very naraaz with me, he wouldn't come to me and he held on to his dad even more tightly but kids forget and it all works out in the end.
do keep us in your duaas belledonne
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INSHALLAH all my sisters will be in my prayers*
yeah i am sure she is not going to come to me for couple of days but again the best part of kids is that they forgive :)
I hope everything goes well
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i think u should take ur daughter wid u ,as u will be more satisfied.the weather is hot but if u keep these things in mind then i hope u won’t have ani problem,keep ur child well hydrated,keep water n jucies n something to eat for teh child while ur inside masjid e haram…take a stroller so its easily for u to take her from the hotel till haram shreef…try to stay near to the haram,prefer wearing lite coton clothes,an umbrella is a must…
during sayi u can use teh stroller for the baby,otherwise u can have a wheel chair wich ppl use for teh small kids also..u have to give ur iqama card or ur NIC n u can get the wheel chair from their in 100 riyals…so u won’t have problems during sahi..try to do ur ummrah in cool time after magrib or isha,to cope wid teh weather conditions…haram is cooler inside during teh day time…u can find anything u want from there as their are stores Bin dawood is ne of them u can find all ur nessicities there…
there’alot of rush in haram so if u get missed make a specific point on wich u and ur husband can meet wen u missed eachother in rush…
in medina also try to get a hotel near to teh masjid,men n woemn are sepreted in madina,while ur inside teh masijid e nabawi s,a,w....keep ur stroller wid u,wen u go inside teh masjid keep ur stroller at the cornner(in order to be safe)teh zirarah is open in zohr/asr time for womens...(hope teh same time now)its better wen u go to ziyarah don take ur child wid u as sometimes there\s alot of rush n u might have problems there...otherwise the situation is far better then it used to be....men can do ziyarah at anytime....jannatul baqi is open in asar time don take ur child wid u over there cause there's a risk of rush/(u will see ur self)leave ur child wid ur husband as men can go anytime in jannatul baqi...
in medina also keep water n jucies someting to eat for ur child, in medina teh most popular n worth eating is AL BAIK its cheaper and believe me far better then KFCvery popular chain in KSA ur child will surely luv teh food overthere...as my kids do..
its depends on u how u manage wid kids ,its not difficult,i did my ummrahs in pregnancy with kids n i didn’nt have any problem…rest is on ur willl sis…congrats to u..