Re: Ugly things I did.
PM,
There has to be OTHER reasons for her being miserable in her marriage besides **YOU **temporarily claiming her as your property. Many factors play a role in why a marriage is unsuccessful. Hopefully when she got married.....she let go of all thoughts about you...and therefore the marriage issues are about her and her husband and not you.
I agree with** RupayHalwa*, don't bring it up. Hopefully you've learned your lesson. A girl's reputation in desi society is more fragile than a guy's. I know girls who were known to have a crush on some guy......and that itself hindered rishta chances. I don't understand why you would want to lay claim over her if you were not romantically interested in her? I mean why keep her away from the guys.......and the guys away from her.......if you had no desire for a romantic commitment toward her? Was it just for an **ego boost*? Cuz i know girls who feel hurt at the idea that they're being led on by a guy just so he can boost his ego that some girl is crushing on him. So was it an ego boost........or do you think on some subconscious level .......u might have had a romantic interest in her....even a slight one?
Whatever your motives were, what's done is done. Ask Allah for forgiveness.....and make dua for this girl and her marriage and happiness. I've read that if you have have wronged a fellow Muslim....and feel that confessing your errors and apologizing to them might make things WORSE.......then the other option for compensating for your mistake is to make dua for the person.