Re: Ugly things I did.
Do fess up and ask for forgiveness from her and Allah Mian.Did you know then what you know NOW? If not then you did all those in ignorance....and it was her responsibility too to not give you all the control the way she did...Maybe it was the way she was brought up and to feel whole she went from one emotionaly abusive relationship to another. May Allah Mian alleviate her sitution.
Do try to help her out...like in a way that she can make things better for herself and her kids(and Im not saying YOU fix things for her)...its her life and she has to make the choice of HOW to make things better. How are things bad with her situation?