agree or disagree?
Disagree, confidence comes with success and mental strength.
2 Likes
Hmm. Your question implies that attractive people are more confident overall. Not necessarily. They might feel more confident about their looks and that can reflect in their body language, in the way they carry themselves, and can even translate in interactions where they are hoping their looks will put the outcome in their favor. But they could be lacking in confidence in situations that require more than just looks; that are based on ability and intellect, etc etc.
Similarly a person who may not be conventionally attractive could still feel confident about their abilities, their accomplishments, their level of experience in something, their wealth, their lineage, family background, etc. Confidence is not confined to just looks. I feel that it’s much broader than that and it includes many other things. But, looks are still very powerful and social experiments have been conducted which prove that the good-looking do receive preferential treatment and they tend to be aware of this. However, looks are not everything. We all have our strengths and weaknesses.
If all that a person has going for them is their physical beauty, then can you imagine their inner state when their looks/ youth fade? Take Holly/Bollywood for instance. Tinseltown is a very superficial place and actresses have a very short shelf-life. One pretty face can be (over time) easily replaced by another, more youthful one unless you have some legit talent and charisma that will give you more staying power. And when they feel their star waning, they will often become desperate to find ways to stay relevant in the media. So even the industry that is heavily based upon looks, and which plays a strong role in setting standards for physical beauty, is fraught with insecurities.
Nope. There are so many naturally beautiful girls out there who have little to no self esteem. I have also seen some not so attractive people with tons of confidence. It really depends on the kind of environment you grew up in and the types of people you encountered over the years.
How you perceive yourself directly affects your confidence levels and self esteem. Ugly people may perceive themselves as non ugly, just as good looking people may not consider themselves attractive. It’s all in your head.
2 Likes
Define ugliness
If you know how to use your good looks than it is sheer power. There is a reason the fitness and beauty industry is worth in 100s of billions.
Good looking people tend to be more successful also as it is easier for them to get jobs, get promotions etc. They tend to be happier also as they haven’t faced rejections like the not so attractive people.
Jeff Bezos 
comes to mind!
parents…
No body is ugly, just broke. A lot of things can be fixed these days. Being average looking is different though and may actually have benefits over those who are blessed with extra ordinarily good looks. I feel it is quite difficult for extraordinarily good looking people to maintain long term relationships. They have too many options so instead of compromising or putting an effort when things are less than perfect, they find it far easier to call it quits and find another partner. Some of these people are so obsessed with their looks and crave so much attention that they almost never stop having affairs on the side.
Most characterless men I have come across are the unattractive ones, they are conditioned to chase everything that breathes as the rejection rate is very high that even when they find someone they keep chasing. If fixing attractiveness was that easy than why so many unattractive people?
[quote=““third string””]
Disagree, confidence comes with success and mental strength.
[/quote]
One may argue that success comes more easily to attractive people.
Success that is based upon using your abilities may not be attained simply by putting a pretty face forward if that ability is lacking or not developed. And in such a situation, if your looks are what helped you get your foot through the door…I don’t consider that success at all.
A common complaint among attractive folks is that they’d like to be recognized and appreciated for more than just their looks.
2 Likes
@redvelvet ugly men are programmed to chase tirelessly and shamelessly beautiful women, we are genetically programmed to enhance our gene pool. My wifes beautiful sisters fell prey to the relentless pursuit of ugly men. They made them believe that they would appreciate them undying, would bring them the moon if they so desired.
Her BIL who I helped immigrate here is one hell of an ugly guy, has paan gutka teeth, is dark, fat and bald with patchy skin and leers at goris and beats his wife and daughters.
There is actually more evidence pointing to why ugly people are less confident than attractive people. They get bullied in school and by their parents, have less doors open to them in life, and face alot of rejection form women.
First of all there is a difference b/w being ugly, being unattractive and being blessed with extraordinarily good looks. Being ugly would be someone who no one except their nearest and dearest wouldn?t find ugly. Being unattractive would be being unattractive in the eyes of some but attractive in the eyes of others, most average people belong to this category and see little need to fix much about their looks. Being blessed with extraordinary good looks would be someone whom most people would find attractive except few who may have a personal grudge against them.
Second thing is that I have nothing against extraordinarily beautiful people. I think though that since they?ve got so many options all the time, they are far less likely to put in the effort needed to sustain long term relationships. Also their looks have afforded them the luxury of getting passes for bad behavior all their lives so they are likely to also lack skills essential for sustaining long term relationships.
As far as chasing is concerned for an average person, it is hard work full of rejections. Think about it like finding a job after being jobless and actively searching for almost a year. Such an employee, given all else is equal, will be more thankful and likely to put in more effort in trying to make things work compared to someone who had an easy time finding the job and still has five offers on the side.
2 Likes
I think fidelity, class and decency has a lot more to do with family values, when Safy was dating his girl friend he was faithful and nice to her, she got sick and he asked me to teach him to make soup, which he took to her work for her as surprise. I feel these boys will be faithful and caring as this is how I raised them.
Lurking for girls but after failing to get one, ending up hoping to get a robot
Disagree
From what I have seen , they usually are smarter/ clever the other party
This quality is a upper hand then being beautiful