Hi
do u know girls that as soon as they fall pregnant they sit their lazy and want people to run around them, they think they have the right for people to answer to their every demand. they take the advantage and this is so old fashioned. there are genuine preggos who cannot manage or have symptoms and of course they should rest. but there are others that take the absolute pi55. aaah.
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First of all. We had this huge discussion about "falling" pregnant. People GET pregnant, they do not "fall" pregnant.
Second...some people suffer debilitating nausea during the first trimester. Some suffer extreme fatigue. With all 5 of my pregnancies, I was so very tired that it was a chore just to et myself out of bed and dressed in the morning and my tail would drag all the day long. It was SUCH a blessing on those very rare occasions that I had someone step in and let me sleep late.
Once that first trimester is over, you''re like a new person. More energy, less raging hormonal activity and life is just...better. But to have s supportive atmosphere in the first trimester when theres nothing showing...is just the biggest, best blessing you could ever wish for. Sad that it doesnt happen very often.
Exactly, Mo3. I'm normally a very energetic person----I work full-time, cook every day and keep the house clean, and before I got pregnant I was also a pretty dedicated gym goer/runner. My first trimester I felt literally WIPED OUT---I literally felt physically disabled. There were a couple of days I slept for 15 hours---and I normally sleep for about 7. Fatigue in pregnancy is a very real phenomenon, and for some women it lasts into the second trimester. And for many women it returns late in the pregnancy---I'm third trimester now and have started needing more sleep, etc. I can honestly say I'm not lazy and I've worked very hard to not ask anyone to pick up my slack, but the fatigue is real!
Hi do u know girls that as soon as they fall pregnant they sit their lazy and want people to run around them, they think they have the right for people to answer to their every demand.
they take the advantage and this is so old fashioned. there are genuine preggos who cannot manage or have symptoms and of course they should rest. but there are others that take the absolute pi55. aaah
And how can you tell who's genuine and who's not? I remember hearing this statement from a close relative when I was pregnant and i felt like beating her and slapping her.
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^ I know. I hate it when people say this. Only one person said this to me when I was pregnant (in my first trimester), and honestly, it's hurtful and rude. I was really exhausted all the time and wanted to vomit day and night. People should honestly think before they speak.
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lol Ms Hareem!! I've felt that way meself a time or two lol!! Its not a regular tiredness, its more like deep fatigue that even a long sleep cannot cure. I cried with thankfulness the couple of times that someone stepped in to letme have a rest. It DOES go away. But something thats never forgotten is the times that some caring soul gave you a break. And the uncaring souls who did not.
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Who says this more, other women or men?
Frankly, if it comes from a man or a woman whos never had a child or been pregnant, i would simply ignore them. Reserve the claws for the woman who HAS been through pregnancy and still says something so idiotic.
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Sara I have to say that in my experience at least. the gender-count is pretty even. Some are guys and some are gals. SOme have kids already and some do not. So its hard to say who will take the tough route and who will empathize. Just always try to remember that these days will forever be remembered by the mom. I will be forever thankful from the bottom of my heart for the couple of times that I got a bit of a break. And will also forever remember those who thought I was a lazy good-for-nothing when I was really suffering in my first trimesters. These are forever memories. And so I make more of an effort to give GOOD ones to those I know.
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I also find the opposite frustrating: all the moms and aunties who don't want me to do ANYTHING, who freak out when I get up and try to be a bit independent. This was particularly in early pregnancy. I understand there are risks and I know they're just trying to be protective and considerate, but I don't like that they treat pregnancy like an illness. I should still be able to function as an independent human being, just with some accommodations.
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i suffered fatigue too. i had to take extra naps throughout the day. other than that i mowed lawns ,showeled snow,reaaranged furniture even had parties thrown at my place.. but someone still said hurtful things to me when i said i was so fatigued i couldn't get out of bed. she said"tum koi anokhay bachay paida ker rehi ho"
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everyone is induvidual, what has it got to do with anyone how you behave in 'your' pregnancy...
some women suffer extreme sickness, tiredness etc and are worse off so hence need the extra rest, some are ok and have more energy...like some days i am fine, other days i just wanna lay in bed all day and puke. Noeone can tell how your feeling in pregnancy apart from you, so ignore those comments.
Being lazy is my prerogative. 
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^:rotfl:
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I think women pretend to be lazy during their pregnancy as much as men pretend to be tired after the 8 hours they spend in an office pretending to work.
On a more serious note, we tend to be as lazy or productive as we convince ourselves to be, pregnant or unemployed or whatever. It's more about mind than body.
everyone is induvidual, what has it got to do with anyone how you behave in 'your' pregnancy...
some women suffer extreme sickness, tiredness etc and are worse off so hence need the extra rest, some are ok and have more energy...like some days i am fine, other days i just wanna lay in bed all day and puke. Noeone can tell how your feeling in pregnancy apart from you, so ignore those comments.
OMG, congratulations girl!!!
i suffered fatigue too. i had to take extra naps throughout the day. other than that i mowed lawns ,showeled snow,reaaranged furniture even had parties thrown at my place.. but someone still said hurtful things to me when i said i was so fatigued i couldn't get out of bed. she said"tum koi anokhay bachay paida ker rehi ho"
That sounds really mean, but what is anokhay bachay mean?
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Sara kia bataoon wat it mean? it means u r not the only one on this earth who ever got pregnant. we hav been thru it n don’t buy ur story 
to be honest i do think girls in Pak over react when they r pregnant. b4 marriage i used to see these girls n think may be when u r preg its imp to put a hand on ur back while walking when u r preg.u can’t walk straight in this condition n u can’t go upstairs or run.
but i found it all diff later on esp in west…
with my recent child i got overdue a week n i was standing at the till in Safeway when the Cashier asked when i was due" i said" was due a week ago" n she was like" oh my girls these day r really brave"
On a more serious note, we tend to be as lazy or productive as we convince ourselves to be, pregnant or unemployed or whatever. It's more about mind than body.
Umm, pregnancy is actually a physical condition, not a mental disorder. 'Mind over matter' only goes so far when you are going through massive hormonal fluctuations and your body is actually building another human being. Of course attitude helps, but again, it can only help so much.
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OMG, congratulations girl!!!
Thank youuuu!!!
But seriously, i'm still pretty active, working, exercising, cooking, cleaning etc....I just need 12 hours of sleep a day! LOL
Umm, pregnancy is actually a physical condition, not a mental disorder. 'Mind over matter' only goes so far when you are going through massive hormonal fluctuations and your body is actually building another human being. Of course attitude helps, but again, it can only help so much.
sheesh. Sometimes I think some guys need to be injected with 500,000 IU of HcG so that they can have a tiny, birds eye view of what it feels like.
Sure, some feel great. Others feel like crap. Sometimes, it lasts the whole 9 months, sometimes just a trimester. But lets get real folks...its a HUGE thing and if a pregnant gal SAYS she's tired then its very possible and even likely that she IS.