do we really!!! … i am told that m too self-less at times… like at times when m in pain (for wutever reasons) i dont bother anyone else in the house about it and try to deal with it myself no matter how serious things are… my reasoning is if they r having fun why should i b the one to spoil their fun… m i wrong to do this?!
Zindagi soz banay saaz na honay paay,
Dil main jub dard utthay awaaz na honay paay...
Who else is going to worry about you if not yourself?
You'll soon find out the world is full of people who'll step all over you at first opportunity, and unless you toughen up a lil you'll find yourself in the midst of shoes and feet (and most of them ugly, foul-smelling, and fungi-clad - unless you're with me of course).
And sweety, no matter what anyone says - selfishness isn't the opposite of altruism. Intelligence is.
I think your wrong. if you share your problem/pain, then you would feel better. If not family then friends. True friends.
Aleezay spilling out is good for health. One should do it more often. I don't think it is selfish behaviour.
oftentimes, you gotta think of number one and you seriously need to be able to tell when people are making a mug of you or what. eventually, people will figure out that you're soft and take advantage of you - and you really don't want that!
definitely tell people when something serious is up, taking it into your own hands could possibly make the situation a lot worse. don't worry about spoiling their fun..... after all, don't they spoil yours?
was just like that.
but you know what.. if we dont take care of ourselves no one else will.
its good to be strong but everyone needs a shoulder to rest on.
Re: U hafta be lil selfish at times...
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do we really?!?! ... i am told that m too self-less at times... like at times when m in pain (for wutever reasons) i dont bother anyone else in the house about it and try to deal with it myself no matter how serious things are... my reasoning is if they r having fun why should i b the one to spoil their fun... m i wrong to do this?!
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Ok, here's another scenario. Suppose someone in your family was sick and you go help them do stuff. How does that make you feel once its done? Good or bad?
Why are u taking that feeling away from other people?
Plus, if its psychological pain, then u shouldn't make any decisions in that condition anyway. Seek help in this case too.