typical desi problem !! solutions ?

ZareenKhan · May 15, 2011, 2:25pm

Re: typical desi problem !! solutions ?

^ I respectfully disagree. I’m sure he does appreciate the importance of helping parents, but since he is working 12 hours a day I doubt he really sees or appreciates the situation, which is why he refers to his wife as ‘bechari’ who can’t live in a separate portion. This isn’t about a person being able to change, it’s about a situation that is being perceived differently by each relative. I’m sure if the bahu came here to post, her POV would be very different and the husband’s POV would also be very different!

Secondly, I strongle believe being judgemental is simply not going to help the situation. Yes, she should be a little more sensitive and help out more, but us saying that here is not the solution. Likewise, giving up and breaking the family apart is also definitely NOT the solution. It will only create more problems, and each person will end up harboring negativity in their hearts for each other, which can only be a destructive thing.

As for us giving people way too many chances, as I said it’s only been 3 months!! As Muslims, shouldn’t we look for the best in people rather than the worst? I’m sure we’re supposed to think of 70 excuses every time we see someone do something that we think is bad. There is a lot of wisdom behind this.. and if people really understood it there would be a lot less issues like this..

i didnt even point out the “bechari” bit and if that was justified or not. for me baat khatam hoti hai when yr own kid shows he is with you only cuz he doesnt want to spend his own money. that’s really shameful!

i know things r not really black and white and there must be some grey too but i dnt see any situation where we can justify the above behavior.

i salute those who hve such a big dil and patience level where they think their good behvior and such great tolerance wl win people over. i think it probably does bt i rather nt win such people over. i guess it depends on every individul’s preference. i know where u r coming from and i really appreciate and commend such a positive prespective bt lets just say its nt something i think is pratical in this world anymore.