Re: twofaced-ness?
You're thinking in extremes Sara516. I know many genuinely nice Desi people who don't talk behind others' backs. But I do know plenty who do. I think being blunt and honest is 'very refreshing', but there's a limit before you can really hurt someone's feelings. Most people, especially Desis are sensitive to how others treat them..and read into other's behavior way too much.
I'm not scared of nice people because i'm pretty good at sensing if someone is genuine or not. There is always a level of superficial politeness when you have guests you don't know. I personally think it's important to leave a good impression. But it doesn't mean you'll end up being best friends. If someone decides that they don't like you then too bad, as long as you are true to yourself.