Im an optimist and see life greeny and rosey which dosnt mean my life is a bed of roses i struggle alot in every aspect but dunt let it ruin my life infact the more i struggle the more i feel proud of my accomplishments. I rarely take tensions ( never actually) n im never stressed! there are times im drained and feel pressurized but even tht i giggle it off
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my better half is completely the opposite..he is stressed about everything..he struggles alot too n i knw it but he is ALWAYS in stress..hes like always awake thinking n planning stuff, i find it really irritating tht his mind never switches off cuz i cant relate to it at all..i mean i dunt get it how can anyone think about their tensions so much tht it starts affecting their health/work/relationships?
i dunt relate to him most of the time but i love him i shut up to be supportive, i have my share of blow ups too!
can any other gurl relate to it? please advice…im blank
hmmmm you can not change anyone's fitrat...........we all have built in errors right !
you said you love him so why you need to change him . just keep on supporting him that's what marriage and love is all about. may be with the passage of time he learns to become positive and optimistic like you.
awww cg i love your spirit! and definatly you are one person i see getting very ahead in life and inshallah you will. About you and your fiance, These differences shouldnt matter, as long as you guys love each other and support each other. Thats whats special abotu love, you dont love someone for their perfection or how well they get along with you, its about how you guys love each other while looking beyond the flaws and loving each other's differences. :)
I think if both partners in a relationship think the same way, things become hard for them in the long haul. I stress about things while my husband is teh laid back one, we both learn from each other.
being an optimist myself, i know that these kinda guys make good partners. They are well prepared, plan things in life etc. I think since you are more laid back .. he is the opposite, perfect relationship. You'll be surprised how much he is thinking about you, your life, looking out for you. Isn't that a great feeling. Its no big deal.
I think everyone has different personality. He is just different from you, not bad. Infact, that's a good quality.
i shut up to be supportive, i have my share of blow ups too!