Hiya
just wanted to know if anyone has had any experience of this?
What peoples view are?
In this situation one sister is already happily married to one brother (but they were not related before they got married)
A distant relation of ours was involved in the same set, a big no no, one couple were fine, the other not so, in the end got divorced, but it has had a major impact on the sister left behind, at one time she was asked to leave home etc etc, to this day the sister that got divorced does not see her sister ever unless she comes to visit thier parents.
Re: Two sisters getting married to two brothers (from another family) good idea?
but what if the two (not yet married) wanted to get married?
doesn't it depend on the individual couples first?
Re: Two sisters getting married to two brothers (from another family) good idea?
I know two sisters married to two brothers and are leading a happy life, mA. Comparisons are inevitable so be prepared for that.
Re: Two sisters getting married to two brothers (from another family) good idea?
clashes are likely if the family is constantly stuffing their noses into the couple's business.
I would avoid this situation like the plague only because I know of people who have married into family but clashed because of this.
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In my family theres 2 brothers married to 2 sisters, One of them is very happy other one didnt wanna do it so therefore is unhappy. However it all depends on the individual.
yeah, there is nothing wrong with it!
Problems arise if it is a wata satta....
in watta satta, if there is a problem in one life (eg: if the couple is unhappy) then the family might get the other couple to leave their spouse etc...
However, if its two sisters getting married to two brothers then its fine :D ...
i know a few of my relatives that did this, they are happily married :D...
In my family theres 2 brothers married to 2 sisters, One of them is very happy other one didnt wanna do it so therefore is unhappy. However it all depends on the individual.
i am guessing that one couple not being happy does not have an effect/impat on the other couple, cuz usually thats the case!
However, it is not the same if it is a watta satta!
my father and uncle married the two sisters i.e mom and my khala. And i don't think there is anything wrong with it, but yes there are comparisons.... so be ready for that! my mom said people try to complicate things between the sisters..... so always be clear on everything with your sister and keep others away from ur family matters..
My mother's sister is married to my father's brother...and it's been totally fine. It's nice because it makes the family even tighter!
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Same as rani pakistani and monster in my family its my mum and masi
(who is my thaiy also ) and my dad and his brother who is my thaiya (and masra)
Its worked out well and they are all very happy but like the girls have said some people
will try to get the bro's or sis's to fall out but if you have good understanding and stay out of each others problems you will be fine :)
Re: Two sisters getting married to two brothers (from another family) good idea?
Thanks for your views/advice
Re: Two sisters getting married to two brothers (from another family) good idea?
my khala is married to my uncle(dad's brother), we are one of the happiest family on the earth
Re: Two sisters getting married to two brothers (from another family) good idea?
My nani and dadi were twin siters, and they always lived happily. Never fought or argued. But there are some other ladies in the family who are married to 2 brothers, and they don't get along at all. So it depends on the individual.
Oh and I have also heard about superstitions that if 2 couples get married in the same house, or at the same time then one of them is going to face misfortunes. But I think that's total nonsense.
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watta satta is the real problem..
my khala too is married to my chachu...and both of them are very happy MashAllah :) talkin about mom and dad ... and my khala and chachu (khalu)
it's an added support with a sister as your jithani/devrani :)
but on the whole depends on the family, the individual. not everybody is the same. even siblings. so if both parties agree and are happy I don't see any harm in that ! :D
Re: Two sisters getting married to two brothers (from another family) good idea?
^Well ideally they should be each other's support system but in most cases this doesn't happen. They begin to compare their lives and everything with each other. Especially if one is better off the other becomes resentful. Or one feels that the older sister is taking advantage of her and she has to do more chores(if they are living in the same home). That's what I've seen happening.
But my nani and dadi got along really smoothly, so that proves that it's possible to co-exist harmoniously.
My mother's sister is married to my father's brother...and it's been totally fine. It's nice because it makes the family even tighter!
Same here My only khala is married to my only chacho,its works excellent :)
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I am one of the sisters married to two brothers. My sister had been married for a few years before my rishta was done and I say its the best thing that ever happened to us. I spend days/month at my sister's house when we go to Pakistan and it pleases both my maika and susral because I am at a very neutral place where both my mother and mother in law can stay with us and our nephews love this arrangement. :-) and no we were not related at all, we are kashmiri, they are Malik.
Two of my cousins are married to two twin brothers who happen to be their first cousins as well. They are happily married as well mashaAllah.
Re: Two sisters getting married to two brothers (from another family) good idea?
Although I agree that it depends on the individuals...I can see the flip side (in this case the negative side).
My nani and my dadi were sisters, and my nana-abbu and dada-abbu were brothers. Unfortunately due to my dadi's very self-destructive personality there was always clashes in the household. However, they lived in a joint family system (we are talking about 1950's Pakistan). If two sisters got married to two brothers and they lived fairly separate lives its all good.
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we have 2 simillar examples in our family one was great and another was ended up in 1 couple's divorce so 50 50. Mainly depends on luck i must say.