Re: Two options...
And maddy, maybe you have a small family? Not to mention flying back from England is half the price you pay from states, especially from a small town in the US.
Cat-Baji, this is a significant difference between how the two sexes view marriage. For guys (generally from middle/lower income families) who have to save & pay for their weddings themselves, it is part of the big equation. And yeah, I know some girls save and pay for their weddings themselves but they are out of the main stream in my social circle.